Venus Retrograde for 2010
How to Constructively Use the Venus Retrograde Period
From OCTOBER 8 through NOVEMBER 18 2010, the planet Venus will be retrograde. The retrograde motion of an inner planet is an apparent phenomena as viewed from earth in which Venus appears to move backwards in the sky. Every 1 ½ years, when Venus moves approximately 29 degrees ahead of the Sun (in the astrological ephemeris), it will begin to move backwards in the sky until it reaches a point approximately 21 to 29 degrees behind the Sun.
When Venus is retrograde, it provides lessons in evaluating the real worth and value of people and things in our life (Taurus-Libra issues). With existing relationships, this cycle produces experiences wherein it is easier to discern the relative worth and value of these people in your life.
Discrimination is more effective. You become readily aware of any problems, differences or unresolved issues. It is NOT a time, however, to act upon any unfavorable awareness. It is purely a time of evaluation rather than direct action. As little frictions and disagreements crop up, they serve to remind you that the relationship is not perfect. Under the retrograde influence, you must assess the severity of the problem and the “cost-benefit” of the relationship. Only after Venus turns direct should you initiate any alienation if this is deemed necessary.
CRITICAL DATES: None
PERSONAL EXPERIENCES:
- During retrograde period in Gemini, I came to the realization that a woman, whose Moon was in Gemini, only valued my friendship as a paying customer and not a true friend. I did not end the relationship but I placed her in the “acquaintance” category.
- The 2004 Gemini transit was surprisingly favorable for relationships in general but a friend with Venus in Gemini in the 12th felt unloved and unappreciated… until Venus turned direct. An advertisement that I bought at the time was a relative loss and, though over-extending myself with too much relating with others, I was exhausted and contracted the Epstein-Barr Virus.
- On the day that Venus turned retrograde in Scorpio, I was able to tell a woman, who had greatly angered me in the past, why I was angry with her— that she was always using me and taking advantage of me. It was different from what she expected and she seemed relieved.
- In Scorpio, I observed a friend being very unkind to an elderly family member. I also observed that she has no patience with people who are ill. While Venus was in Scorpio, I was shocked but I said nothing. Later I knew that this is a great friend whom I care about dearly…but I will just not go to her when I am ill!
- When Venus was in Scorpio, I felt resentful of needy, overly sweet and manipulative people.
- When Venus was Retrograde in Capricorn, I was out of control with eating and my self-esteem was non-existent! A man became very angry when I did not teach astrology classes as I had intended. He took it upon himself to call local astrologers and attack my reputation. While this was disturbing, I became aware of people who did not defend me when he attacked me. I learned who I could trust.
- With regard to financial issues, a store credited 40¢ to my account when I actually paid $40. It took months to straighten this out.
- In Virgo into Leo, I was depressed a lot, feeling alone and isolated and feeling sorry for myself for the most part as Venus retrograded back into my 12th House. Health problems became a major issue for a lot of people. With Venus in Leo, we were very aware that our needs were not being met.
- In Aries, it was entirely different! I attended a conference in Serbia. I met some wonderful people who urged me to get on an E-List and this changed my life. I later learned that many people did not size up my personality correctly. As a 12th House person in the midst of outgoing people, I came across as shy and not very knowledgeable. In later meetings, they were amazed that I was not this way at all. I have subsequently become very good friends with many of the people I met in Belgrad.
- Overall, many people contacted me who I had not seen for a long time. Over and over again with each Venus Retrograde, people re-connected from my past!
Sometimes we do experience relationship difficulties and stresses but, if it is a good relationship, the differences will not affect the quality of association. It is important to realize that, in a relationship, the problems that you experience in the beginning of the union will always be there and only get worse in time. These are the basic differences between you and the other person. You should make an evaluation at the time of Venus retrograde to determine if you can tolerate and understand these differences. I have been through many Venus Retrograde cycles and the good relationships are still with me.
While we can readily distinguish the problems in a current relationship, this will not be true of a relationship formed while Venus is retrograde. Because the retrograde motion alters our perspective, we are unable to see the obvious and we can too easily misread the signals. Before eloping or making wedding plans, wait until Venus turns direct to get a balanced perspective. This Venus does not imply deception but rather a distorted perspective and attitude. Faulty presumptions can be easily made. For example, if you meet someone at the tennis court, it does not necessarily mean that the person likes tennis. Maybe that person was simply there to pick up a friend! These presumptions can cause erroneous evaluations and eventual disappointment when we discover that the person of our dreams is not what we thought at all!
Where there are existing difficulties in a relationship, the retrograde Venus period offers an opportunity for a reconciliation. People are often feeling unloved, unappreciated and disappointed while Venus is retrograde. They feel that they should be getting more out of their relationships. This is particularly true when Venus transits the 7th and 12th Houses. When a person is in a mood that makes them feel that nobody cares, it is an excellent time to make a “hat-in-hand” apology to restore a relationship with someone who is hurt. Any sincere apology will be graciously received. During the 2002 Retrograde, I found it easier to have good heart-to-heart talks with friends, something I really needed to do. My new perspective was the depth of kindness in so many of my friends.
Being the natural ruler of the 2nd House, Venus has dominion over certain financial affairs. This is NOT a good time for investing or starting new financial activities. The value of the product or commodity is often inflated or over-valued so that losses will occur when Venus turns direct. Splurging on substitutes for feeling loved can be costly and paying for this with Capricorn dollars can be difficult! A Capricorn friend has a predilection for making investments while Mercury or Venus are retrograde. Needless to say, the only benefit that he has received is a hefty write-off on his taxes for his losses.
While Venus is retrograde, it is not a time to purchase any so-called luxury items. You will be motivated by impractical considerations so that, what looks gorgeous in the store, may turn out to be the ugliest thing you have ever seen once Venus turns direct! The inclination is to purchase items that you will not like and you cannot return. No discussion of Venus retrograde would be complete without mentioning my redheaded friend who bought a purple coat (on sale – could not be returned) while Venus was retrograde. Another man signed a lease on an apartment with a gorgeous sunken living room. So enamored of its beauty was this man that he did not consider the long-term financial strain. This retrograde does have excellent financial benefits if you know how to use them. First, because people are motivated by impractical considerations in making purchases, it is the perfect time to unload something that no one would buy except when Venus is retrograde. Someone is sure to see its inner beauty and feel that they cannot live without it. They may regret it later but that is not your problem. Working with the inflated value of this Venus transit makes this an excellent time to unload stocks, real estate and unwanted items. Then, use the money gained to pay off debts.
Venus retrograde is an excellent time for buying antiques, flea market items and secondhand goods wherein you know the real worth and value of the item but the seller does not.
Years ago when I first studied astrology, I warned my parents about spending excessively on an antiquing trip when Venus was retrograde. To my surprise, they came back with the best bargains! They discovered many valuable antiques with very low prices because the seller did not know their value. Purchasing real estate is not always a problem with Venus retrograde. If you know that the property is a bargain, you can make an excellent deal. Discrimination is essential. Do not be motivated by a flashy appearance.
According to Delphine Jay, who has lectured extensively on retrogrades, she finds that Venus retrograde is a favorable time for re-negotiating a financial situation such as a contract or bank loan. It can be helpful in resolving a long-standing legal matter. When Venus is station (around the retrograde/direct dates), it is a good time to change lawyers.
Mary Shea states that this is a time to reflect on the inner value of your experiences rather than outer display. Material rewards may be delayed and material or possessions that you expect to acquire may not manifest. A luxury item purchased may not please you in the long run. Relationships started now will be associated with inhibitions – clandestine or possibly more spiritual. Something may be withheld and, if so, someone will be disappointed. Existing relationships may be up for review. Outer assurances and displays of love and affection are not readily evident. Old friends and lost loves may be contacted for a second look.
While the favorable transits from Venus retrograde offer an opportunity to benefit from this transit, the afflictions cause us the most difficulty, especially in relationships. The planets involved describe some of these problems. This is a general description of Venus afflicting a natal planet:
Sun: A time of general poor cooperation and hurt feelings. You feel that you do not get the recognition that you deserve. Pride issues can present problems.
Moon: A time of overly sensitive moods and hurt feelings. It someone gets upset with you, back off and allow the mood to pass. The person is over-reacting and irrational. There is nothing that you can really do. Attempts to appease will only make matters worse.
Mercury: A time of sensitivity through disagreement and not seeing eye-to-eye. Hurt feelings with something said. Watch communications on this date.
Venus: A general time of poor cooperation, feeling unloved and unappreciated. The sign that Venus is now transiting will block the sign needs shown by the natal Venus sign position.
Mars: Anger and jealousy can cause relating problems. Someone met at this time will have an unsettling affect upon your life. Hormones rule over reason. Love-hate situation in relating.
Jupiter: This aspect will cause phoniness and role playing in a relationship. If the person seems too nice or if the opportunity seems too good to be true, know that it is an unrealistic situation.
Saturn: Responsibilities and the demands of others will make you feel unloved and unappreciated. Learn to say NO!
Uranus: Unpredictability and erratic behavior in a relationship or an attraction to an unpredictable person is indicated. A very unstable time in both relationships and finances. Emotional upsets, financial problems, rebellious spending.
Neptune: A time of deception and misreading signals. You may be dealing with an ambivalent person. Your own passivity can get you into trouble now. Disappointment in relating.
Pluto: Relating can be intense, controlling and manipulative. Overwhelming behavior can be a signal of attention needs. Back away from any relationship that seems karmic!
Transpluto: Criticism by a perfectionist person will cause a separation and alienation.
Ascendant: Your sense of self-worth, self-esteem and sense of lovability are not good now. You can start to feel sorry for yourself and feel disappointed in others who may not meet your needs…at least, in the manner that you anticipate.
ADDENDUM March 2009: In my initial observation for Venus R in Aries, typical for a Cardinal sign, it is generating a lot of CRISES. I have cat (health) crises, computer crises (I always have this problem when Venus is R) and relationship crises. I am sure a financial crisis is around the corner since it is transiting my 8th House and tax time is looming on the horizon.
Jul 31, 10:14 AM
How would this Venus Retrograde effect accepting a job offer? I am applying for the job of my dreams…what if I am extended an offer? Will it be an illusion or come with hidden problems?
Thanks,
Liana Patterson
10/4/53 9:25 AM Chicago
Jul 31, 01:00 PM
Do not worry about Venus retrograde…it is not like Mercury retrograde at all.
In a job started when Venus is retrograde, be nice to everyone since you do not know who will change…and actually be friendlier later on. People often do not project themselves as they are when Venus is R. Sometimes they are in a bad place so being nice and friendly scores a lot of points….Lynn
Sep 10, 10:26 AM
Hi Lynn-
Need advice.
I usually breed my flock of sheep to begin lambing in the middle of March.
I happened to see this morning that Venus will be retrograde in Aries until the middle of April.
One of the things that I’m breeding for is very pretty sheep,strong bones, twins & no lambing problems.
I’m thinking of moving my lambing up to February but don’t like the idea of dealing with babies in the middle of winter.
Waiting until after the middle of April is too late.
Do you have an opinion?
Thanks
Sep 11, 10:13 AM
My father used to raise 6 sheep to keep the grass down around the pond. Even that, I have no experience with this matter. The last time Venus was Retrograde in March was in 2001. How did it go at this time for breeding?
This should give you some type of answer….Lynn
Nov 26, 01:52 AM
I am looking at a march 12th wedding date. I realize that it is a Venus retrograde, so I am a bit anxious about it. Is it definitely all bad? And I will be married in Israel. Does the location effect things as well? Thanks in advance for your help.
Nov 26, 06:50 AM
I find that the wedding chart does not really affect your future marriage. I know too many astrologers who have picked perfect dates for a marriage and the relationship did not last 2 years — so, do not worry about this.
Do not calculate a chart for the marriage date and time. If there are any problems in the chart itself, seeing the chart will energize it. I know this from experience.
The Moon is in a good sign, Libra, and it trines Mars, Jupiter and Neptune in Libra. This is very good.
The Moon does oppose Venus R. This could mean that someone could behave inappropriately at the event or there could be some hurt feelings. Be diplomatic.
Best wishes on your marriage…Lynn
Feb 18, 04:53 PM
I am already beginning to see the sides of people I haven’t seen before. It’s come forth in passive-aggressive ways intended to cause problems within certain relationships, and it likely stems from jealousy/envy, a not-so-attractive Venusian trait. In fact, the freedom to speak inconsiderately and/or just plain harshly has hit a couple of my closest relationships, already. And, as a Libra, I don’t like that nonsense one bit.
Therefore, wherever I can, I try to dissipate any fire that stems from such nonsense with peaceful words and humor. Some of it has actually attempted to “hit” my closest relationship— my marriage— and so I calmly brought it up to my partner, humbling myself sufficiently enough to express my true feelings on the subject. An honest conversation about the situation helped us immensely.
Luckily, we share it all.
It is very important to be aware of what could be coming from the mouths of others during Venus-retrograde. Most words will not be beautiful and peaceful and unifying, and in a fire-sign like Aries, we are likely to lose our cool rather quickly if we fail to dig into what people are truly trying to say. Not to mention that some are having a hard time transitioning from a “me” to a “we” state.
However, what troublesome/gossipy types are trying to get across is insecurity and a cry for love or attention.
That said, heads-up and good luck.
Feb 25, 06:04 PM
I have Moon in Aries in the fourth house. I have an opportunity to move into a larger apartment for a very good price. Should I wait for venus to go direct or act now? There is a chance of losing this opportunity, and this new apartment will give me and my two children our own bedrooms (we live in NYC) very rare opportunity. Thanks
Feb 25, 07:08 PM
Venus is not R now and Feb 27 is a good electional date. Venus R is great for bargains…Lynn
Feb 27, 10:08 AM
i have given an interview for a govt job on 27th february (the interview was toughly contested but my performance was good). however the results of the interview will be declared after the 15th of march. i am worried whether the retrograde effect of venus may possibly have any effect.
can it be true that i will not get the job simply because venus has turned retro ?
Feb 28, 08:33 AM
Read #2, my response to Liane, above. The same applies. It does not affect getting a job.
Mar 1, 01:43 AM
Hi Lynn,
Hope you’re doing well.. I have a complicated inquiry for you.
How does this affect old boyfriends? My boyfriend was a friend I had online for a very long time. Then I met him in person I think close to a mercury retrograde.. then after the retrograde was over.. we got together during a mars retrograde.. and it wasn’t the greatest for a yr.. we broke up a few days before the mercury retrograde this past january on a full moon, then today I got a text wondering why we cant be friends? and he’s curious as to why I don’t talk to him anymore.. now what sort of lessons would apply if I brought him back into my life during this retrograde? hehe my friends would all disown me if I were to date him again.
Looking forward to seeing a response from you :)
Ami
Mar 1, 09:44 AM
What you are asking requires an analysis of both charts, called Synastry. This does not seem like a good relationship pattern. Move on.
Venus R is good for reconnecting with a relationship but do you want to get back with this person? I would have an astrologer analyze his chart and tell you exactly what he is like so that you can make a wise decision.
Mar 2, 02:08 AM
Lynn,
I’ve been reading about Venus retrograde and I am curious about how it should effect rejoining with my girlfriend. I am Libra Sun/Virgo Moon Taurus rising she is Virgo Sun/Aquarius Moon Capricorn rising. We met during summer ’08 and fell in love, but had to go our separate ways. Last time I saw her was in Dec. We are looking at a good time to reunite and possibly move in with eachother. She lives accross the country right now and is looking at moving in with me in April, during Venus retrograde. While I am almost begging her to come soon, she is being careful and desires to make the move when the alignment will work for us the best. We are trying to save money for summer so we can travel. She doesnt want to loose money on moving in with me too soon. I can hardly wait! Should she wait until after April 17th? Any sort of reply helps, Thanks!
-Russ
Mar 2, 07:48 AM
Much depends upon the transits and progressions in her chart. An astrologer would have to look at these.
Moving while Venus is retrograde can be disappointing so she would have to take more time to adjust.
During the first week of May, Mercury goes retrograde and this can cause travel and change mishaps.
Mar 2, 11:29 AM
H! read article with interest!
I met an interesting guy on line who is now asking to meet me. I’d like to, but Venus Retro…should I just keep e mailing him until May? (this doesn’t seem realistic) When does a “relationship” actually “start”? He made the invite on March 1, but I first learned of him Feb. 23- we have not set a date to meet yet.
One Degree of Aries Rising
Mar 2, 12:05 PM
People who you meet online are not as they seem anyway and, with Venus R, you need to take time and wait until it goes direct before making any decision about this person.
Do not wait. Size him up as soon as possible.
Mar 2, 04:27 PM
Hello Lynn
Thank you for your informative site, which I have just discovered. My brother is getting married in Cape Town, South Africa on 8 April at 4:30pm. They have been in a relationship for about 5 years. I hope Venus retrograde is more a bonding, bringing them closer than ever rather than the opposite. Could you shed some light?
I am Taurus Sun, Libra Moon and Sag rising, with my Venus in Aries conjunct Jupiter in the 4th House… many lessons to be learned!
Thank you
Catherine
Mar 2, 06:04 PM
Hi
How does Venus Retrograde affect trying to conceive? LYNN: Babies are always conceived when planets are R without difficulty for most. You may look into the Jonas Fertility Cycles. This is a time when the Moon is at the same distance from the Sun as it was a birth. This was a technique used by a Czech astrologer in the 1950s. Sometimes it really works but not always.
Mar 2, 06:51 PM
I have recently broken up with my boyfriend of two years (shortly before the New Year)
I broke up do to my need for personal transformation and have had some amazing break throughs in the last few months. The time apart has made me really realized how much I love him and I have been looking for an opportunity to restore the relationship. There is already a great deal of drama around the situation, but I’m wondering if a Venus retrograde period is the oportune time to state how I tuly feel.
From what I know of Venus retrograde it is a time where old lovers sometimes come into the picture and also a time to best re-evaluate love. I’ve even heard that Venus retrograde can make things seem destined to happen. So I’m just wondering if this is a chance to fix things or if I should wait to see what comes out of the situation and make a decision afterwards.
PS- I am quite certain this man is my SOUL MATE before entering this retrograde period, if that some how clarifies the context of the situation
Mar 2, 08:59 PM
The relationship I have with this man is very confusing and complicated. He is a Gemini, and I am a Leo. He is also your typical sociopath. I am your typical needy Leo.
Mar 3, 12:44 AM
Hi!
Great article. I am moving to a different city and will be meeting my new roommates for the first time during the venus retrograde. I was wondering how this might effect their impressions of me or my impressions of them?
Mar 3, 03:46 AM
I have venus in aries conjunct jupiter both at 15 degrees in the 11th house. How will this affect me when venus goes retrograde starting at 15 degrees on Friday? Thanks =]
Mar 3, 08:12 AM
Gypsy – I hope that Venus R will help you see this loser in a new light so that you can move on. Life is too short to waste on such people.
I know when you are young it is very hard but it is harder when your life is tied up with someone who can never truly love you the way a Leo deserves to be loved.
Mar 3, 08:36 AM
Destiny – Venus R is a good time to apologize for past behavior. But, this does assure that he will want to get back with you, especially if he has moved on in his life.
Brittany – If you read my article, you will know how Venus R affects the situation. People may not be sized up accurately. So, be nice to everyone until you get to know them better after Venus goes direct.
Jilliam – Why don’t you let us know what happened on Friday.
Catherine – I doubt if you can get your brother to change the marriage date at this point. Read #7 & #8 where the same question was asked. I do not find the chart for the time of the wedding affects the course of the marriage…only the maturity of the 2 individuals.
Mar 3, 12:02 PM
Hi Lynn,
Thanks for the insightful article. I started seeing someone in feb (i’m libra, he’s capricorn)… and i’m a little concerned about the Venus R causing problems/friction in this budding relationship.
do you have any recommendations on how to keep things running smoothly?
thanks,
c
Mar 3, 12:10 PM
I have been in a relationship since 1992. We have been through many Venus R periods and nothing stressful ever occurred. Please, do not worry about this cycle. It can help you see other aspects of each other’s personality and this can be a good thing.
Mar 4, 06:09 PM
Hi Lynn,
Thank you for the interesting article. The hypersensitivity you mention certainly rings true for me with my Aries Moon and may be the source of the issue I present here. I’m trying to chill, but I could use your insight about the following:
My boss asked some of us a couple months ago what we enjoy most and least about our jobs and what we might like to do in the future, so she could be better prepared to do some reorganization in the future. I was very clear about where I stand.
Yesterday, my supervisor came to me to discuss some proposed changes in job duties. Interestingly, the duties she would like me to pass to someone else are among my favorites, while the new duties she wants me to take on are not interesting to me. Go figure.
My intuition tells me she wants to “dump” the duties she is passing to me, freeing herself to do something else. She has shown herself in the past to be a self-interested, less than trustworthy person. Maybe I’m being negative, but I’m concerned I’ll end up hating my job, and with 18 years here, at age 59, and a halved 401K, I’m not thinking about leaving any time soon.
The other piece is there was no mention of additional pay for taking on more of the supervisor’s responsibilities, and this has happened before.
I feel trapped and depressed. I wonder what would happen if I objected overtly. Should I try now to negotiate some changes and/or ask for a pay increase?
Mar 4, 06:52 PM
Kat – I am not a psychic. I am an astrologer. I have never done anything but astrology so I do not know anything about business politics.
I would ask a friend who knows the system…better than I do.
Astrologically, look for days when the trainsiting Saturn is well aspects to some of your natal planets. This is an excellent time to ask a “practical” person for advice.
Horary astrology also answers such questions — a chart calculated for the time that you ask a question. If you wish to pursue this, I can refer you to an excellent horary astrologer.
But, asking a practical friend when Saturn is well aspected would work just as well.
Mar 4, 07:07 PM
Lynn,
I (Sag) have been married for 7 years on March 16th (He’s a Taurus).
In the past 3 or 4 months I have done a lot of introspection about my marriage and I have found some missing pieces. (Trust, Faith, Communication) After about a year an a half of trying to get my husband to work with me I finally asked him to move out. I should mention that he denies these are issues. The first time (early Feb) he bullied me in to backing off. Two weeks later I asked again now he has turned a “new leaf”. He spends a lot of time and doing the “right” things, things he has never done in our time together. I still don’t get a warm fuzzy that he is listening but I know he is trying, and he really cares.
I am ready to file for divorce (which will shock and crush him) because I feels the issues are too deep and he still doesn’t admit to them.
And here we are entering Venus Retrograde…a period of reconcilliation. How does this period affect divorce? Do I wait till May (his birthday)? Perhaps with this period a real change is occuring (or perhaps it’s all frosting)?
When did the retrograde take affect, at the same time I just reconnected with a friend I realize I really miss?
Mar 5, 05:59 AM
Hi Lyn. I was wondering what the effects of a venus retrograde period would be for a person with venus retrograde natally? Is it any different for people with regular venus in their charts? I’m venus retrograde conjunct sun and uranus in scorpio in the 6th.
M
Mar 5, 09:21 AM
Cat – This is too much to answer in a short post but I can tell you that ALL Taureans never listen. It is in their DNA so he will not change. Yes, Venus R is a time to view the relationship in a new light. But, do not for a minute think that one day he will start to listen.
Matt: You have asked a good question but I do not know the answer. People born with Mercury R do seem to function better when Mercury is R, although they are tripped up by the other people with Mercury D.
Born with Venus R, you may be able to understand the dynamics of what is occurring in relationships — personal and business and you might be able to spot “bargains” better than most at this time…but I have not researched this. If you have observations after Venus turns Direct, do let us know.
Mar 5, 10:01 AM
Hi lynn i sortof comprehend the venus retrograde I am a true Aries and am working on getting back to gether with A true sagitarrius, He is coming around a little bit and was wondering when people truly care about one another and commitment is an issue, how do you determine if its is for real during this retrogade or just that they are taking advantage of you. which would you say would be the mos dominate for this period, i know its already starting, Blessed
Mar 5, 10:07 AM
For me personally, I would look at his horoscope to see if the relationship will really work. I would also look to see what is going on my my own chart — is there a Neptune transit deluding me? I am very practical — if a man is not interested, I move on. Hopefully, Vensu R will help you see the situation more clearly and then make a decision.
Mar 5, 10:42 PM
Hi Lynn,
I am due to give birth to my second child on 13th March 09. The baby may or may not be born on that exact date, however, it will certainly be born within the Venus Retrograde period. What does this mean for my child?
Mar 6, 07:19 AM
In a very general way, I could say that the child will need extra reassurance, especially from dad.
Mar 6, 02:08 PM
I’m moving to another country to be with my boyfriend in early June and am ready to purchase my ticket, but now am a bit concerned about making the purchase during a Venus retrograde. Do you have any insights on this? That Jupiter/Neptune conjunction coming up in May is also happening in my 4th house…..Thanks!
Mar 6, 05:30 PM
Hi Lynn,
Thanks for this article.
According to my natal chart, I’ve got my Sun and Mars in Aries (12th and 11th houses, respectively), and I’ve got my Venus and Mercury in Pisces (both in the 11th house). So, as you can imagine, I’m certain this retrograde phase is going to affect me greatly.
Just wondering what I can expect over the next 5-6 weeks as an Aries with a Venus in Pisces, as Venus retrograde through those two signs. I sense I’ll have some hard lessons in love to face and some blows to my pride (esp. since I have my Moon in Leo). What do you make of all this?
Mar 6, 05:34 PM
My boyfriend (Leo) and I (Leo) broke up on August 5th 2007, during the Venus Retrograde (inLEO)..imagine that! We reconciled in March of 2008, and things have been great and smooth right up until a month or so ago. He started having doubts about some things out of nowhere. On Tuesday, March 3rd, we finally had a talk about things, and he let me in on some of the thoughts he’d been having. Yesterday, he seemed to come back to normal, apologized for everything and let me know he is committed to us.
When I heard that Venus was going retrograde again today, I have to say I’m a little worried. We have spent the past year building a very strong foundation. Reading about how the retorgrade is in Aries, I’m hoping it will run more towards the line of improving things and not ending!
Mar 6, 11:26 PM
Dear Lynn,
Thank you for your beautiful offering to the world!
I have had an intimate friendship with a man for the past 8 months who has respected my desire to remain abstinent. We have have had many amazing nights of cuddling. I am now in love with him and we’ve discussed taking our friendship to the next level. Is this a bad time to “consummate” a relationship? I am very patient- I’ve waited 8 months already and am willing to wait 6 more weeks…
Thank you Lynn!
Mar 7, 02:51 AM
Me and a friend from a year ago reunited this past weekend and I’ve never had such a connection before… it’s so intense!! we connected on a level I have never connected before. Strangely, I’m a Sagittarius, and he is a Taurus (very unlikely couple) BUT…this time it is different. The connection was spiritual, emotional, and even energy related. I’m curious how the retrograde will effect us… all of this just started feb. 28th and has been intense until today (march 6). i was wondering why i was having the feelings i was feeling and why he was somewhat more distant than normal but then i discovered that venus was in retrograde starting the same time this distance did (i’m very “vibe” and universe sensitive). so i guess my question is, should i take a break from seeing him until april 11th, should i still see him but take things slow, or should i just continue like we have been since the connection is so strong? this isn’t something i want to screw up…it’s to real, intense, rare, and special… but i also don’t want to risk waiting until the retrograde is over and nothing being how it has been before it started.
HELP!
lifeexperienced@hotmail.com
Mar 7, 09:12 AM
Mary Anne – that Aquarius conjunction in your 4th is very good for an expansive move. I always leave the house for my flights on a day and time when the Moon is only making good aspects while in its sign and I always have a great time abroad. I am leaving for Europe again on November 5 2009.
Becky – All Venus R will do is help you to see another side of the relationship. This may help you in your assessment. You would really need to look at his horoscope to see what is really going on with this man. If it is a Uranus Transit, he wants to break free; with Neptune, he feels lost and does not know what he wants; if Pluto, he is feeling overwhelmed and thinks he wants to be alone.
Sharon – a man who is willing to wait 8 months for sex and then only start discussing it may have some serious problems around sex. This is why he is content with the cuddling, which I know is wonderful for women. When a man likes sex, he wants to move to that level as quickly as possible. Venus R may reveal this issue.
Noorna – I am not a psychic. I cannot even tell what is going to happen to me during the Venus R. This article will tell you all that I can tell you — a time to reconnect, a time to re-evaluate current relationships and a time to meet people who may change after Venus turns D when Venus R is in the 11th. In the 12th, it is a time when we can feel sorry for ourselves and neglected … so you need to treat yourself well.
Sarah – What you are describing has nothing to do with the Venus R period. You need to look at the transits that you yourself are experiencing – if it is Neptune transiting your natal chart, these feelings will clear up once the transit leaves…but this could take 2 years. Venus R possibly could help you gain a perspective on the relationship. I have been through many Venus R cycles and it has not affected my primarily relationships.
Mar 7, 10:27 AM
Dear Lynn,
My husband and I are going to Las Vegas March 22 to 27 for a delayed honeymoon. I have had mixed feelings about going due the economy and concerns about my performance at work. This is a much needed vacation but will make work difficult when I get back. Any advice on enjoying a trip together when I question deserving a good time with money concerns and recent heavy relationship issues under this venus retrograde? Venus will be in opposition to his acendant and square my acendant.
Appreciate your insight
Sheila
Mar 7, 10:42 AM
Sheila – I am not a psychic. It is impossible for me to intuit what is happening in your chart (and I do not give readings on this website) in order to discern your upcoming economic situation.
March 22 is a good day astrologically to begin a trip, even though Venus is R.
If you click on the Astro-Column link at the top right, read what it says for the Moon in Aquarius (for Aquarians but applies to everyone commencing on that day).
Mar 8, 02:52 PM
Dear Lynn,
Transiting Venus retrograde conjunct one of our personal planets make us delve deeper and reevaluate that planet, I guess, in terms of relationships and finances? For example, if Venus retrograde were to conjunct my natal moon, I would reevaluate my emotions/feelings and piece out what I really want/desire? Interpreting transiting retrograde planets are kind of confusing to me, thanks!
Mar 9, 08:25 AM
Tay – Yes, I feel that your statement is correct, specifically for someone who is more spiritually and psychologically evolved.
Most, however, will just experience the hurt feelings and disappointment without knowing why.
Yes, we should make such evaluations — this is what Venus is trying to teach us.
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http://www.north-node.com/astrology-tutorials/how-to-choose-a-wedding-date
Mar 10, 06:16 PM
Dear Lynn,
I’ve been experiencing some very emotionally challenging times during this Venus in retrograde period.
On Friday, someone who I thought was a very close friend decided to tell me by text message that she started dating the man she knows I’ve been interested in for a very long time. This man and I confessed an attraction for one another months ago but we did not act on those feelings because he was already in a relationship. A few weeks ago his relationship ended, but I thought it would be in poor taste to make a move so soon after his heartbreak. My friend, obviously, did not extend him the same courtesy. Now he wishes to pursue this relationship with this woman, even though he is aware of the horrible way she has treated me.
I hope he chooses to re-evaluate this relationship after this Venus retrograde period is over, but I do not feel like I will ever be able to forgive my friend for her deceitful actions or this man for finding them acceptable.
Do you think I am being unfair for passing judgment on their actions at this time?
Mar 11, 04:47 PM
Hello, I am dating a Taurus w/Gemini R, Sag M, Venus/Gemini, Mars/Libra, Sat/Aries, Pluto/Virgo. I am a Sag with Scorpio R., Aquar/Moon, Venus/Libra, Mars/Libra, Saturn/Libra and Pluto/Leo. We are really struggling. Can you help me?
Mar 12, 12:16 AM
Hi Lynn, thanks for the opportunity to ask a question. I am a single woman considering moving to a new residence (rental) with another single woman. We have known eachother for a couple of years. We would do this to save money and have more space. Would the concern be that our relationship might falter and cause difficulty in a joint living situation or would it be that the places we look at seeming better than they actually are? Not sure what to watch for under this venus retrograde period. Our move date will be sometime in early May 2009. Nothing set in stone yet so to speak. Seems to me that the financial improvements would make it a sound decision and support the venus retrograde. Any input would be greatly appreciated. I am a Cancer and she is a Gemini. Thanks, Antoinette
Mar 12, 03:35 AM
Hi there, I need your advise. My sun zodiac sign is a Leo. My chinese zodiac sign is a rabbit. I am by nature not a confrontational person. But lately, i’m having problems with the relationships around me. I know of a friend who has an habit of lying as she tries to imitate others and does not seem to have her own identity. She takes credits for things that she has not done and loves to be the centre of attention. I used to watch it with amusement but now I get very impatient and prefer not to be around her. Worst of all, I think i’m making it obvious.
I know of three people who have a very difficult personality. For some reason, this period i seem to have problem with all three of them. I lashed out angrily at one of them who was rude to me even though in the past i kept my cool. I was blunt and rude to a family member as she always interfered in my relationship with my fiance just because she doesn’t like him. And someone that i’ve not talked to for about 4 years seem to want to stir up problems. I couldn’t understand why i was suddenly feeling agitated and being on the defense until i read how the Venus retrograde affects relationship.
My worry is how to handle this situation? In terms of finance, i wanted to launch my products on the 5th April and to have a spa party. Should i then postpone it? Would this be a failure then? I’m really worried.
Mar 12, 10:59 AM
Lynn,
I am 54 and Libra with a Taurus moon. My gal is a 61 y/o Taurus. I knew her very casually for a couple of years and only saw her out once in a while before Thanksgiving of 08, when I asked her out. I personally made some recent changes in my life for the positive before I met her. I asked her out, we got together and it has been going incredibly well since. Communication is the best I have ever had, and we have more in common than any other woman I have ever been with (she agrees for her as well). We both agree we are incredibly matched and compatible. Warmth and passion has also been very nice. She, at one point within the last number of weeks, even told me she “needed” me in her life. We spend weekends together and JUST started to spend a day per week also. I mentioned meeting my Mother a number of weeks ago and she said she was patiently waiting for me to bring it up until I felt the time was right. At that point she said she thought it was nice idea. I brought it up again last night (full moon), and she said she needed to tell me something…..that she loves me, but doesn’t feel the “in love” part of it. She also stated earlier in our relationship that she has never felt this before to her knowledge in any relationship, but knows what she feels with me is the best she has ever felt.
This is the best match I have ever felt, and she has told me this before from her feelings as well. I have felt like she is the one for me from the very beginning, and everything leading to this point has continued to aim that way. Her pattern in the past has been exactly this with every man she has dated (that she has said)…..to care about them but has never fallen in love with them or willing to have more than a weekend relationship. She also has had only weekend relationships for many years and this is the first one to start going further, from our comfort level.
With her statement last night of “I love you, but I don’t have the in love feelings”, I am not certain whether to call it quits and move on, or risk taking the chance of seeing what might become of it…..ie: lay back and see IF it happens. Rejection and patience in relationships are not one of my forte’s. With the knowledge that you are not psychic, what might this Venus retrograde hold? My gut feeling keeps telling me over and over that she is already beginning to feel (she is thinking) she made a huge mistake telling me this (not wanting to let this go), but I cannot know that my gut is right. I am in a bit of a tailspin and do NOT like the feeling at all.
Thanks.
B
Mar 13, 07:10 AM
Hi Lynne,
Venus turned retrogade very recently and it was fine for me. I have been feeling quite ecstactic this whole week and was having lots of fun with venus newly in my 1st.
Then it crossed back over my ascendant in the night and today iam much more sober. I realised throughout the day that my expectations for weekend were not working out and so i may as well cancel and i also feel disconnected to the people around me.
Whereas yesterday, I was feeling totally happy, today I’m not! I’ve even bailed out of my oversea travel plans with friends next month because i’m no longer optimistic about my finances for the trip.
Can venus impact so immediately?! It rules my 2nd and 7th houses.
Mar 13, 01:51 PM
I wanted our relationship with a good friend of mine, she’s a Taurus, I’m a Scorpio, I wanted to take the relationship from friendship to something more. I currently have a boyfriend of 11 years and she knows this. I told her on a whim that I was going to move out and I’d invite her to my place when I did. Well, I never did move out. My boyfriend and I worked it out… though I think she still thought I was going to move out. It was never clear to both of us if we had feelings for each other, but I think that she did for me because she has since stopped talking to me. It’s been 7 months and I’ve been texting her, emailing her, and sending her small gifts to get her to talk to me and she has cut off all communication with me. What can I do to get her friendship back? or if she wants a relationship, I was willing to leave my boyfriend for her but I never got the chance to tell her. Will this Venus Retrograde help us? or Will she eventually call it quits and let go of my definitely?
Mar 14, 11:15 PM
Hi Lynn,
My boyfriend (Libra with Sag rising) and I (Cap with Sag rising) have been together for almost a year. We have had some communication problems due to him not being very good at expressing his feelings and I was wondering if the retrograde is going to make it worse (since it makes everyone MORE introverted than they already are)? Also is there anything I should do to take advantage of this retrograde to strengthen our relationship?
He is also looking for a job after he graduates in May. No where specific, just wherever he can find one. We haven’t really discussed me moving to where he gets a job or us even living together yet. Is this a good time to bring that up? (During the venus retrograde, I mean)
Thanks so much!
Mar 15, 12:50 PM
Hi Lynne,
First of all, thank you so much for your time and energy, and this great website.
For the last two months, I have been very busy looking to move out of the apartment I am currently in (it has gotten far too noisy, due to reconstruction in flat above me and I am not sleeping well there) and rent another.
It has been hard to find something which is right for me but
recently I viewed a place that is reasonably priced (within my budget), quiet, well located and equipped (though it will not have an oven which I want). I must act fast however, and decide whether to take it or not in the next few days.
The problem is it is currently being renovated (new kitchen, bathroom, furniture, floors etc. will finish early April), and so I have no idea what it will actually turn out to be like. At the moment its just bare walls, dirty floors and work men.
I am worried that with Venus in retrograde, I will make an unwise decision, based on the fact its being renovated and I won’t know what it will look like, I am taking a big risk as it will be my home for at least the next 5 years.
Any advise Lynne, please?
Thank you so much,
Andreas
p.s I am an 27, Aries/Taurus (19th April) with an Aries rising, Libra moon (7th house), Venus in Taurus (1st house).
Mar 16, 07:29 AM
Googles77: I cannot tell if the friendship can be saved. To use Venus R, a sincere apology, even if you are not sure what happened, can help. People feel unloved and unappreciated when Venus is R so they can appreciate an expression of sincere feelings. BUT, you must be real, speak from the heart and communicate honestly.
B: I am not a psychic or a sun sign astrologer so I cannot give you a good answer.
Look at his Mercury and its aspects to uncover the source of his communication problems. Does his Mercury favor your Mercury by sign (I have an article on comparisons on this website). A good book to learn about Mercury aspects and communication is Betty Lunsted’s “Astrological Insights into the Personality.”
Do allow wide orbs (lets go with 13 degrees).
Andreas: Venus R is good for finding a bargain, something underpriced. You must exercise moderation in pricing. Look at what is functional and necessary, not glitz. If it has expensive features that you do not need but raise the cost, keep looking.
NOTE TO ALL: This site is getting too big and most messages will be removed April 1. I will be lecturing in Arizona from April 20-26 2009 so I will not be available.
Mar 16, 11:32 AM
Deena & Others – I am not a psychic so I cannot intuit what is going on.
Deena, common sense tells me that he was just looking for something easy and your ex-friend was just that, easy. When it ends and he shows up at your door, know that it is just a booty call so shut the door. Venus R helps us see the reality of a situation that may have eluded us.
Matilda – Just remember Taurus men never listen, Gemini can have another life and the Saturn-Saturn oppositon will have you parenting this relaitonship. Is this what you want?
Antoinette – I cannot tell anything from Sun Signs. But, with Venus R, if it is a bargain and benefits you financially, common sense says to do it.
Sharon – First, for the success of a business, you need to look at your chart with transits and progressions. I would not start a business under Venus R. The people that you are talking about are not your friends. Walk away.
Bruce – The rules from the book “He’s Just Not That Into You” can apply to women. I cannot tell anything about her from what you have said only that she is just not that into you. If Jupiter or Neptune are strong in her chart, she may have intimacy problems — preferring relationships that are easy and uncomplicated and go her way. If Uranus is strong, she is afraid of being trapped. You may need to consult an astrologer, looking at both of your charts in order to get the full picture.
Moone – The difference is that Venus R back into your 12th House. This is the gloomy position but know that, when it goes direct, it will cross into your 1st House again. Be patient.
Mar 16, 03:15 PM
Lynn, can your provide more phycological description about “Taurus men never listen” insight. How to get them? By cooking food?
Thanks
Mar 16, 03:43 PM
You can talk to a Taurus, they will knod their head as if they hear what you are saying but then they just go off and do want they want anyway. They do not hear what you are saying. If they do not want to hear what you are saying, they do not hear it. You do not get to them….you just accept this trait…or not. Food does not affect their hearing, sadly to say.
Of course, you really need to look at Mercury’s aspects and sign to understand their communication style.
Mar 19, 02:04 PM
Hi Lynne,
I have an Aries, Sun, Mercury, Venus and Chiron all in the third house. My boyfriend of 9 months has the Sun, Moon and Mercury in Aries (birth time is not known). I have known this person for 20 years, with the last ten years we have had little contact. Over the last few years, I havent been able to stop thinking of this man, that I never took the opportunity to form a relationship with him.
So last year on the 13th of July, I woke in the middle of the night, and new that I would find this person on a friends reunited website, I had this fated feeling that we were meant to be. From that monent on we have been inseperable.
But, over the last few weeks, communication and affection on his part has been different. He finally admitted that he doesnt know what he wants from his whole life anymore. He is currently working as a helicopter crew man in the solomon islands, and his contract looks like it may be terminated, this is the second time in 6 months that his company has lost a contract. This inturn means he may be out of a job. That he also doesnt know what he wants from me, that he just doesnt feel the same, and it just doesnt feel right. He doesnt see us as a long term commitment. I tired to see if I could get him just to sit on things, and not make a decision, that there is always the posibility that in a few weeks time that things would settle and he would feel differently. He just doesnt want to try.
Over the last few weeks, while this was happening, internally I have been working on what it is I truely wanted, without saying anything to him, I just know in my heart, that for me marriage is what I was looking for.
Could you please shed some light on whether this is just short term, or whether this is the end and I should just let him go?
Thanks for all your help
Mar 19, 02:42 PM
I met someone I like and am extremely attracted to just after venus went retrograde. We both have our mars in aries; I have both mars AND venus is aries. Is it foolish to begin dating this person during such a poorly augmented time? A couple of issues have presented themselves; do I assume those issues will never be overcome? We seem to be having a lovely time together and we have lots in common, but I’d rather know now if it’s going to end badly, before we invest a lot of feelings.
Mar 19, 04:25 PM
Lynne,
I found the Venus retrograde description interesting.
Astrologically, it looks like you are saying someone is supposed to NOT take action under this and wait until this retrograde is over before they break off a relationship or move on. What can be expected during or after the retrograde if a person breaks off a relationship during this time as a result of someone from the past or someone new coming into a person’s life?
B
Mar 19, 04:37 PM
Sima – Let him go. It appears that he is trying to tell you that anyway.
Maria – I am an astrologer, not a psychic. I cannot tell you about this relationship only knowing that he has Mars in Aries and you have Venus-Mars in Aries.
In sharing my experience, any problems at the beginning of a relationship will only get worse with time. Enjoy it for now but review the relationship after Venus turns Direct.
If the realtionship becomes a CRISIS for you with Venus R in Aries, let him go immediately.
Mar 22, 03:54 AM
Thanks Lynne,
It sure is so gloomy with venus backing into my 12th! Melancholy even.
My common sense and my feelings are going off their usual course. Being patient right now means chewing my nails and indulging myself in scrapbooking for something time-consuming to do so that I don’t do something drastic (like phoning an ex) during this venus retrogade period. I’m amazed as i’ve never charted my response to venus before. Your descriptions are quite accurate. Thank you. I have been warned.
Mar 22, 08:36 PM
Hi Lynn,
First of all, I love your insight. Thanks for providing it.
My question is financial/career in nature. I have an internet based directory that I want to launch, but I could wait until Venus stations direct. The site is a place for people to find discounts from local businesses though and I was wondering if it would actually be better to launch it during Venus retro since it does have to do with saving money.
Venus retrogrades in my natal 9th house and stations direct in my natal 8th house, sextile my natal 6th house Moon. In my solar return it is in my first, but dips 1 degree into my solar return 12th house before it goes direct.
I would greatly appreciate your thoughts on this!
Kim
Mar 23, 04:42 PM
Hi Lynn,
We made plans to get married in Aug 2009. We looked at few venue options, I found this great place for a wedding yesterday and need to put a deposit to hold it, but told my fiancee I am scared because of Venus R. Should we go ahead with the deposit, since the wedding date was decided on 4 months ago? Or is it bad time to “lock” it in?
Thanks for your reply.
Mar 25, 01:30 PM
Also ..5 degrees Aries is my anti-vertex.. so i’m looking out for whatever might happen there and my mood seems fine now. The gloom didn’t last long at all.
Mar 26, 03:15 PM
Lynn,
Short and simple question. Why is Venus Retrograde not a good time to initiate a split/divorce? Is that true if you had pretty much decided before the retrograde and the retrograde brings things clearer.
Blessings, Cat
Mar 28, 01:21 PM
The relationship with my husband was on the rocks since last summer. I really did not expect him to give up our family so easily but he was absolutely convinced that it was the end. He moved out in February leaving time for me to think and initiate the divorse because he thinks I would be more comfortable if I can tell when it’s over. Later on I found out that he has another relationship. I went through psychoterapy and really hoped that it is not his final decision as he is really kind with our daughter and visits her every day while I am at work. I asked him to make one more try because I am depressed as hell right now and one day our daughter would judge him on that. Now temporarily we do not have a baby-sitter and he comes over in the evenings to help me with her. Is there any chance that he will eventualy return during the retrograde cycle?
Mar 28, 11:14 PM
Kim, do not initiate any business when Venus is retrograde as it will never make any money.
Mar 28, 11:26 PM
Sarah – I know that one cannot wait too long for booking a room for a wedding date. I can only say that you need to pick a good day astrologically, when the Moon is only making favorable aspects before it leaves the sign.
Because I have been out of town this month, I could not tell you about the good ones in March. I will have the April “good dates” posted in a few days on the Astro-Colum website.
Cat – Venus R only makes you more clear about the relationship. Once this is established, then exercise caution in signing papers that would have financial implications. This is the only warning.
Elena – Ending a relationship is very difficult emotionally so I do empathize. It is possible that, while Venus is R, you can gain a new perspective on the relationship…and so may he. Wait until Venus turns D to see matters more clearly.
You also need to have a heart-to-heart about WHY he left. Venus R is good for this but do really listen to what he says.
Do not “yes but” his comments. Just tell him that you will think about what he has told you and then think about it or talk with a friend to mull it over.
Mar 29, 01:15 PM
Hi Lynn,
I started a new relationship on March 1st, we finally met on the 17th and had a great time, except that he decided on the 19th that he was feeling no “spark” despite his actions… We have hashed and rehashed and wondering if he is just in confusion about me, but maybe when venus goes direct he will see us more clearly….?
Amy
Mar 29, 01:22 PM
Amy – Sadly, he is really being honest with you. At least, he told you right away. Let him go.
You could look at his chart and observe the aspects to his Moon and Venus regarding his attitude towards relationships and women in general. I allow VERY WIDE ORBS. Men who are looking for Sparks often have Neptune aspects. Looking can be more fun than Finding….Lynn
Mar 29, 04:39 PM
Hi Lynne,
Ive been debating for quite a while what course of study and career I should consider doing going forward, I have finally decided on doing a Teachers Aide course and am wondering if I should wait until venus is direct before paying?
Mar 29, 05:17 PM
Hi Lynn,
I’m new to your site and love it. Thanks so much for the terrific information.
I’ve read the previous postings and am a bit confused re: Venus R not affecting jobs but definitely affecting business ventures as both are related to income/revenue.
My question is: Should I wait until Venus goes direct or is it okay to move forward during retrograde with…
1a. Having a new client sign a consulting contract with me this week. 1b. Ditto for another new consulting opportunity (this company collaborates with client in 1a).
2. My signing on with a network marketing company for active and passive income?
Your insights would be much appreciated. Thanks in advance.
Linda
Mar 29, 09:29 PM
LINDA – I understand your question and confusion. This is the job post…
“In a job started when Venus is retrograde, be nice to everyone since you do not know who will change…and actually be friendlier later on. People often do not project themselves as they are when Venus is R. Sometimes they are in a bad place so being nice and friendly scores a lot of points….Lynn”
If someone is offered a job and Venus is R, it is not so easy to turn it down in difficult economic times. So, follow the above rules.
Starting a business venture so that the business would have a horoscope with Venus R is not good. This can be controlled because the Grand Opening can occur under better aspects.
If you can control signing dates, I would encourage against this but sometimes one cannot wait. Projects ruled by Venus R are not often money-makers.
SIMONE – If you can wait before commiting, this is better. I should also add that my Astro-Column for April is coming out in a couple of days (link found at top on right). I give the best dates in April, even though Venus is R. Sometimes you just have make a commitment before it goes direct.
Mar 30, 11:26 PM
Hi Lynn,
I just discovered your site and am really enjoying it. Interestingly, it was the topic of a get-together I attended tonight for a friend who is moving away. All the women were talking about astrology and someone mentioned your site.
I am taking my ex-husband to court on April 17 for non-payment of child support. This has been several months in progress and he has not shown up at our past two court dates. Now he could be going to jail. I notice that is a day when Venus is in station in Sheat (hope I spelled that correctly). My ex is has placed my children and I in quite a bind financially due to his non-payment and I am especially concerned about the outcome of this court date.
I am also concerned about how this situation will affect my two children’s tuition.
Thank you so much for looking into this for me.
Sue
New York, NY 01/26/59
Mar 31, 08:03 AM
This is a very difficult situation for you, especially in these economic times. An astrologer cannot work with just a birth date. Actually, for questions such as yours, I feel that a horary chart is the best astrological resource for answers —the chart calculated for the date-time-place that a question is asked.
That said, I can only give you a very general answer about Venus R. If an event occurs on the day that Venus (or another planet) turns direct, there will be a shift and, since it goes direct, the change will cause matters to begin to move forward. Good luck…Lynn
Mar 31, 11:44 AM
my daughter and her boyfriend – having a wonderful and loving relationship for a year,
broke up the end of feb 2009
is this retrograde causing this to happen and will they be able to re-unite again,
they both are missing eachother
Mar 31, 06:45 PM
Lynn-
i just wanted to thank and acknowledge you for answering all these questions for people in such specific generosity.
I hope venus retrograde is wonderful for you! it does have a lot of exciting potential!
warmly,
pisces
Mar 31, 11:40 PM
Someone sent me a note regarding venus retrograde. I sent to them this note the day before:
I think it was a day in which I was just not in sink, it seemed like people around me were trying to do all the things I always appreciate, but I just couldn’t, then things were not moving in my direction either.
I knew something was not right when Tod called and he seemed disturbed, Tod is my counterpart on the east coast. He asked me a basic question and I was like really he doesn’t know how to do that. Then he was like by the way I was just checking on you.
Last night I got home from my trip to back home, the day yesterday was fine, but last night I did not sleep well. Dreams woke me, I heard sounds that had nothing there.
Its like someone is distracting me and I am rotating in the wrong direction. But the world seems rather happy despite my confusion and in ability to focus.
Even now as I write I am having difficulty staying on track.
The twitches have been so strong today, it is like something is not right.
Here was one of my dreams:
I know its there I can see it sometimes as I move through this grain,I don’t know why I was trying to move through this but I seemed to understand it, its a black grainy fog , yes you could feel it roughness when your face hit the darker parts, but when I do like a swimming move with my hands I can see flowers and green grass,
Suddenly I find my self actually swimming and moving through this fog , I bump into a fish who keeps jabbing me in the ribs, it sort of tickles and I don’t know if he wants to play, it doesn’t really hurt but its annoying me because I am ticklish, but it is keeping me from moving through this grainy fog, then suddenly I just break through and the air becomes crisp and cool, I can see blue skies, the grass is green and the trees are swaying in a breeze, I am lying in the grass now and the sun feels warm on my back, i turn and i don’t see the sun , but still I see a dark blue sky with a crystal bright moon and a star, i just lie there and fall asleep.
Then I see someone knocking on a door.
Does any of this have a relationship
Souleclips
Apr 1, 08:44 AM
MARIA – Since I am an astrologer and not a psychic, I can only give a general response.
Generally speaking though, they should use Venus R to discuss their feelings, apologize where needed and then see what will happen.
This Venus R in Aries has been fraught with crises. Resolutions may not come until Venus enters Taurus.
Apr 3, 05:30 PM
Lynn,
I met a man around January but did not talk to him that night. Then on February 27th, we met again and talked all night and really hit it off. He asked for my number, talked on the phone all week and then went out on our first date March 6th. Today is now April 4th and we have been seeing each other for the past month and both feel this fated feeling that we have never experienced before (especially him- he’s a Sagittarius) (I’m a Virgo). I’m wondering if this is all going to disappear when the Venus retrograde period is over. Is the retrograde just playing tricks on our mind.
Apr 4, 12:52 PM
CAPRICORN – I am an astrologer, not a dream analyst. I am not very good with such interpretations.
ANGELA – I am not a psychic and no astrologer can really make an interpretation with Sun Signs. I have an article on Chart Comparisons on the website and you can use this to see where problems may occur. Since you met before Venus went R, this transit may not affect your relationship at all.
Actually, I feel that the most important factor in a relationship is the maturity of the 2 individuals. I have 2 friends who have been together for years. You cannot guess this from the chart comparison.
Just give your relationship time. Do not worry about the stars. Only time will tell if it is real.
ATTENTION: On April 6, I will begin to delete many of these posts since there are 84! But, thank you all for reading my articles! In March, I had 30,000 hits, mostly to Venus R.
Apr 6, 04:11 PM
I had a head trauma and as from almost exactly the date Venus turned retrograde in my 8th house, I lost my sense of smell. It has not yet returned and I am having acupuncture and other treatment. Have you ever heard of a health condition improving when Venus goes direct? My natal Venus is 8 degrees Pisces opposite Saturn in Virgo in the 1st house. I realize you can’t tell me it will but just interested in whether you have ever heard of cases like this.
Thank you!
Apr 7, 07:40 AM
Hello LYNN,
I just woke up to find that an ex-boyfriend desires me back, after a period of 4 month silence (his mars in scorpion explains that), in which i know he was dating someone else. I was happy to be acknowledged but is this acknowlegment deceitful, as it is influence by venus retrograde? he’s sun, venus and and are in air signs (he is very detached, so i was shocked with the revelation). I have the same moon as he (gemini, which is also my ascendent) but my venus needs roots (capricorn), while his venus is in cold aquarius (which is my sun sign). Any insight? Thank you so much for the information. (the bargains at flea markets are really true:) )Apr 7, 10:28 AM
CAROLYN – It is possible that Venus changing direction can change your symptoms, esp. since this started when Venus turned R.
MURI – This guy is a skeezer making a “booty call.” Give him the boot yourself. You deserve better.
Apr 7, 10:04 PM
In January I started dating a guy who I had known 12 years agol Things were great. We planned for me to go down to be with him beginning late April, early May ’09. Last night another friend emailed me and informed me that the guy, who has told me nothing, is back with his old girlfriend. I am heartbroken, everything was going so well. And I found out from someone else. As recent as last Friday he said I could come down earlier. What is going on?
Apr 7, 10:34 PM
Dear Lynn,
Thanks for all the insight. Very enlightening. Now I realize why I am thinking of a boyfriend from over 30 years ago and ran into his website & contact info. Is it better to wait till after Venus is direct awhile to contact him?
Thanks & blessings to you.
Nancy
Apr 8, 10:31 AM
ANN – I have no idea what is going on in your chart but there must be difficult outer planet transits to your natal chart. A Neptune transit (article on this website) can make you feel betrayed and disappointed.
Venus R reveals the other side of the story. I confess that I have had my feelings hurt with this Venus R as well. He exposed hiself as a skeezer so let him go.
ANN – You can contact someone while Venus R as this Venus brings people back into your life. Wait until Venus is D to go out with him. The Retrograde will be over soon.
Apr 10, 01:18 PM
Dear Lynn,
My boyfriend of 3 months asked us to take a break on the beginning of Venuse R. I was and still am shocked, as we have never had any fights or problems. He even took us for weekend in Venice, prepared a nice Valentine surprise, etc.I was very hurt and was demanding explanation. He told me that he’s just busy (he is a military pilot) and wouldn’t have a time to see me. But during a phone call he said many reasons that didn’t get together. When I asked him if he doesn’t want to see me ever again he said he didn’t say that. That he just wants to be single and himself now. He is cancerian (18.07.1982) so I am (23.06.1981) Do you think that this Venus R can have an effect on him? He’s not into astrology that much. I had to text him last week to let him know something but didn’t ask anything. Despite he answered and was nice to me. I was thinking to e-mail him after 17th April to ask him to meet for a chat, as we agreed when everything happened. Do you think he may react differently then? I really didn’t recognize him when he asked us to take the break. He sounded like it’s not him. Do the stars have such great impact on people?
Apr 11, 07:32 AM
IVANA – It is not the stars, it is HIM! Cancer men do not break up unless they have found someone else…but he does not want to tell you and he does not want to make a clean break — in case it does not work out.
His Mercury opposing Neptune is the signature of someone who cannot tell the truth. He is fickle in relationships, not typical of Cancer. You are under stressful Pluto transits this year. Read my Pluto article on this website. Relationships this year will prove quite complicated. Put romance on hold for 2009. This is not easy when you are young but this is my advice.
Apr 12, 04:42 AM
Hi Lynn,
Loved your article, thank you. Venus retro has thrown me for a loop, literally and figuratively. I have never been nor felt so ‘out of sorts’… ever, relationally speaking.
I met a man on March 5th via a dating service. He appeared to be my dream come true. Sadly, since the process began, I’ve found that although his spiritual convictions are similar to mine, and we are within a couple degrees on the compatibility spectrum, I’ve learned since last week my initial suspicions that I was attempting to initially deny—-have all but manifested with clarity, and going forward in this relationship would be detrimental to my life overall, emotionally, spiritually, & psychologically. So I am attempting to end it, but not having much success, as he continues to challenge me. Issac’s date of birth is 19 April 1959 4:26 am in Mahopac, NY & mine is 1 June 1958, 1:26pm., St. Louis, MO
Hence, prior to meeting Issac, this past December 2008 I met another man JL via a dating service whom I interacted with via email until relocated to the same city he was living. We didn’t plan it that way, I just happened to be relocating to Honolulu, and that is where he happened to also live. When I arrived in January, I didn’t call him but finally reconnected with him in February, via email, phone, text…and I have gone out with him once. Since then we have had minimal but favorable communication. This minimal communication maintained until about 3 days ago, when he suddenly came out of the woodwork—-reigniting communications on a more regular scale, calling, leaving messages and texting, and I’ve reciprocated.
He is a documentary/film producer and has been quite busy with new show that he had to finish by this weekend. He is now finished and will have more time to date, etc. Problem is that we play phone tag ‘frequently’ and both of us appear to be dancing —- non-commital to actually ‘make things happen’? Yet, we are attracted each to the other in a healthy way albeit somewhat ‘less passionate’ and serious way, than perhaps Issac and I… which was too too much over the top, as we were already talking marriage in May!
JL and I are emotionally fun, playful and available to enjoy one another—-we laugh a lot. The relationship thus far is fun, jovial, not ‘heavy’ such as the relationship with Issac, and well, I think that JL could truly be the ‘ONE’. JL and I live in the same city, have similar temperaments, and laugh hysterically when we were together ——at least we did so on that first and only date which took place on March 4th, just two days prior to Venus retro. We have not actually seen nor been out together since March 4th, although I do believe that this week we will get together for dinner, and I am concerned about scheduling the date prior to Venus Direct. Do you think I should go ahead and schedule the date but make it for say, the 18th. or after?
JL’s date of birth is 23 October 1961 4:15am., Honolulu, HI
Thank you for your insight and advice. I enjoy your column.
Blessings,
Isa
P.S. My accountant Chas 31 March 59 is in love with me, and i love him too… as my dear and perhaps best friend. But we lack passion—-it’s just not there for me. At the same time, Chas, 31 March 1959 local time 5:44 pm
in Des Moines, IA fits the mode for security and kindness.
Lynn, I am so torn…with how to choose the man I am to be with, but I think it is JL even though we have not even ever discussed it … I believe it is ‘simply fate’? Your thoughts? :)
Apr 12, 07:36 AM
First, I would not go out with the new person until after Venus goes direct. This Venus is fraught with crises.
Next, your chart is very strong for relationships right now but it is better in 2009 for dating more than one person. You will attract a lot of relationships but, since Uranus is crossing your 7th House Mars and square Saturn, these will prove disruptive.
You have Venus at 0 degrees in the 8th. While you need intensity, you do not know how to size up relationships. Just because someone is friendly, it does not mean that they are your friend. You need friends to help you evaluate the men who come into your life. Somehow, this Venus at 0 is not a good candidate for internet dating as you believe what these men tell you too easily.
I find that, when someone cannot choose, the answer is “None of Them are the One.”
Apr 12, 12:24 PM
Lynn,
Thank you for taking the time to answer my inquiry. I agree with you 100%. Have a delightful Easter.
Blessings, Isa
Apr 13, 09:09 AM
My girl and I were together from July 2006 until February 27, 2009. Her DOB is May 31, 1955 and mine is November 5, 1958. She initiated the breakup. I consulted astrology for the first time in my life and I am seeking guidance. I have never known such grief, at least since the death of my father. In fact it’s probably worse than when Dad died because I loved this woman for half my life and the thought of consciousness without her is just torment. There was good cause to take a time out, but the decision end it just makes no sense to me and appears to be a failure on her part to make healthy choices to choose our relationship over unhealthy family relationships; but that’s just my self serving read on the situation.
I want to be with her very much but more than that, I want to know whether it’s really over. Do you have any guidance for me?
Apr 13, 10:15 AM
It is very difficult to tell what is going on with only birth dates. Astrology requires much more information to cast a chart. But, she is a Gemini and your are a Scorpio. You are intense with a lot of anger issues. She does attract this but loses interest when relating becomes complicated and she feels that she cannot breathe in a relationship.
You have a Venus-Neptune conjunction so you see what you want to see in a relationship…how wonderful it was…for you.
You both are very different in so many ways. The tigher you hold on the further away she flies.
If you need to consult a relationship astrologer, I can recommend one.
Apr 14, 10:25 AM
Hi Lynn,
Thank you so much for your website and your time. The esoteric information you provide here is amazing and brilliant! I wish you were on the West Coast.
This Venus retrograde period has been very unsettling for me and my relationship. Everything seems to be unreal. My boyfriend for 6 years, 21 march 1949, 6:32 a.m. Hill Air Force Base, Utah, is undergoing very heavy transits, with Venus retrograding over his ascendent, mars, sun conjunct, with Uranus sitting on his venus and Pluto sitting on his moon. My data I gave to you in the Neptune board, but I will repeat 19 august 1958, 5:37 pm, El Centro, CA. I am getting feelings of repulsion about him, as if he is involved in seedy, dark, deceitful things. He has been more secretive than usual but sometimes to me he just reeks of something sinister. Is this my projection, maybe pluto on his moon…? I have not expressed this to him. I believe you are saying we should wait until the retrograde is over to finally speak about our impressions? But any input about these awful feelings I am having about him and our relationship would be appreciated.
Thank you!
Donna
Apr 14, 01:16 PM
Donna, I do not give personal readings on this website. You may need a comparison reading and I can recommend someone who specializes in relationships. If you feel that you cannot wait to discuss your feelings, then do not wait until the 17th.
Because I do not attract such clients, I cannot tell if he is engaged in something nefarious.
Venus R is a time to view the relationship in a different light and this you have done.
Feeling the way that you do you cannot possibly love this man in the way that you really should…so it is best to think about letting it go. With Uranus crossing his Venus in the 12th, this may be something that he is anticipating.
If he is engaged in something “behind the scenes,” it will come to light next year when Uranus crosses his Ascendant.
Apr 18, 12:17 PM
What to do? I started a wonderful relationship beginning of February with an amazing man. During the retrograde, everything turned upside down for me. I felt uncared for and reacted….a little too much. Well, we just broke it off on the 15th and I am just crushed. Is there any chance, now that venus is in its direct motion, that we can go back to the way it was?
Apr 19, 09:09 PM
Hi I’m a libra and i met a guy who is also a libra on March 6th….Things started out great but no he’s being wishy washy. telling me he wants to see me and doesn’t follow thru. It’s very frustrating because i do like him and I’ve been to readers that say if we can make it thru this retrograde than we can get thru anything. And dispite everything he wants to be with you. Of course it doesn’t look that way to me. So can you tell me because we are both libras and we met in the beginning of venus retrograde could this be the reason why we are having such a hard time and basically forget about thinking this relationship will get better??
Thank you
Maria
Apr 20, 07:30 AM
MARIA – I do not do Sun Sign readings. I can tell nothing from this BUT you met him under Venus R and now he has changed. He cannot make a decision because he has other options. Turn him lose and find someone who appreciates you. Don’t waste time on men (or women) who are a waste of time.
Oct 24, 04:31 AM
hi
i think I may have a natal chart ruled by Venus,which was certainly retrograde at birth. Can I ever have a home? At 50+ years – has’t happened yet, so I’m thinking, not a goal in the realms of the possible..
any thoughts?
Catherine