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Venus Retrograde for 2013-2014

How to Constructively Use the Venus Retrograde Period

From DECEMBER 21 2013 – JANUARY 31 2014, the planet Venus will be retrograde. The retrograde motion of an inner planet is an apparent phenomena as viewed from earth in which Venus appears to move backwards in the sky. Every 1 ½ years, when Venus moves approximately 29 degrees ahead of the Sun (in the astrological ephemeris), it will begin to move backwards in the sky until it reaches a point approximately 21 to 29 degrees behind the Sun.

When Venus is retrograde, it provides lessons in evaluating the real worth and value of people and things in our life (Taurus-Libra issues). With existing relationships, this cycle produces experiences wherein it is easier to discern the relative worth and value of these people in your life.

Discrimination is more effective. You become readily aware of any problems, differences or unresolved issues. It is NOT a time, however, to act upon any unfavorable awareness. It is purely a time of evaluation rather than direct action. As little frictions and disagreements crop up, they serve to remind you that the relationship is not perfect. Under the retrograde influence, you must assess the severity of the problem and the “cost-benefit” of the relationship. Only after Venus turns direct should you initiate any alienation if this is deemed necessary.

CRITICAL DATES: None

PERSONAL EXPERIENCES:

  • During retrograde period in Gemini, I came to the realization that a woman, whose Moon was in Gemini, only valued my friendship as a paying customer and not a true friend. I did not end the relationship but I placed her in the “acquaintance” category.
  • The 2004 Gemini transit was surprisingly favorable for relationships in general but a friend with Venus in Gemini in the 12th felt unloved and unappreciated… until Venus turned direct. An advertisement that I bought at the time was a relative loss and, though over-extending myself with too much relating with others, I was exhausted and contracted the Epstein-Barr Virus.
  • On the day that Venus turned retrograde in Scorpio, I was able to tell a woman, who had greatly angered me in the past, why I was angry with her— that she was always using me and taking advantage of me. It was different from what she expected and she seemed relieved.
  • In Scorpio, I observed a friend being very unkind to an elderly family member. I also observed that she has no patience with people who are ill. While Venus was in Scorpio, I was shocked but I said nothing. Later I knew that this is a great friend whom I care about dearly…but I will just not go to her when I am ill!
  • When Venus was in Scorpio, I felt resentful of needy, overly sweet and manipulative people.
  • When Venus was Retrograde in Capricorn, I was out of control with eating and my self-esteem was non-existent! A man became very angry when I did not teach astrology classes as I had intended. He took it upon himself to call local astrologers and attack my reputation. While this was disturbing, I became aware of people who did not defend me when he attacked me. I learned who I could trust.
  • With regard to financial issues, a store credited 40¢ to my account when I actually paid $40. It took months to straighten this out.
  • In Virgo into Leo, I was depressed a lot, feeling alone and isolated and feeling sorry for myself for the most part as Venus retrograded back into my 12th House. Health problems became a major issue for a lot of people. With Venus in Leo, we were very aware that our needs were not being met.
  • In Aries, it was entirely different! I attended a conference in Serbia. I met some wonderful people who urged me to get on an E-List and this changed my life. I later learned that many people did not size up my personality correctly. As a 12th House person in the midst of outgoing people, I came across as shy and not very knowledgeable. In later meetings, they were amazed that I was not this way at all. I have subsequently become very good friends with many of the people I met in Belgrad.
  • Overall, many people contacted me who I had not seen for a long time. Over and over again with each Venus Retrograde, people re-connected from my past!

Sometimes we do experience relationship difficulties and stresses but, if it is a good relationship, the differences will not affect the quality of association. It is important to realize that, in a relationship, the problems that you experience in the beginning of the union will always be there and only get worse in time. These are the basic differences between you and the other person. You should make an evaluation at the time of Venus retrograde to determine if you can tolerate and understand these differences. I have been through many Venus Retrograde cycles and the good relationships are still with me.

While we can readily distinguish the problems in a current relationship, this will not be true of a relationship formed while Venus is retrograde. Because the retrograde motion alters our perspective, we are unable to see the obvious and we can too easily misread the signals. Before eloping or making wedding plans, wait until Venus turns direct to get a balanced perspective. This Venus does not imply deception but rather a distorted perspective and attitude. Faulty presumptions can be easily made. For example, if you meet someone at the tennis court, it does not necessarily mean that the person likes tennis. Maybe that person was simply there to pick up a friend! These presumptions can cause erroneous evaluations and eventual disappointment when we discover that the person of our dreams is not what we thought at all!

Where there are existing difficulties in a relationship, the retrograde Venus period offers an opportunity for a reconciliation. People are often feeling unloved, unappreciated and disappointed while Venus is retrograde. They feel that they should be getting more out of their relationships. This is particularly true when Venus transits the 7th and 12th Houses. When a person is in a mood that makes them feel that nobody cares, it is an excellent time to make a “hat-in-hand” apology to restore a relationship with someone who is hurt. Any sincere apology will be graciously received. During the 2002 Retrograde, I found it easier to have good heart-to-heart talks with friends, something I really needed to do. My new perspective was the depth of kindness in so many of my friends.

Being the natural ruler of the 2nd House, Venus has dominion over certain financial affairs. This is NOT a good time for investing or starting new financial activities. The value of the product or commodity is often inflated or over-valued so that losses will occur when Venus turns direct. Splurging on substitutes for feeling loved can be costly and paying for this with Capricorn dollars can be difficult! A Capricorn friend has a predilection for making investments while Mercury or Venus are retrograde. Needless to say, the only benefit that he has received is a hefty write-off on his taxes for his losses.

While Venus is retrograde, it is not a time to purchase any so-called luxury items. You will be motivated by impractical considerations so that, what looks gorgeous in the store, may turn out to be the ugliest thing you have ever seen once Venus turns direct! The inclination is to purchase items that you will not like and you cannot return. No discussion of Venus retrograde would be complete without mentioning my redheaded friend who bought a purple coat (on sale – could not be returned) while Venus was retrograde. Another man signed a lease on an apartment with a gorgeous sunken living room. So enamored of its beauty was this man that he did not consider the long-term financial strain. This retrograde does have excellent financial benefits if you know how to use them. First, because people are motivated by impractical considerations in making purchases, it is the perfect time to unload something that no one would buy except when Venus is retrograde. Someone is sure to see its inner beauty and feel that they cannot live without it. They may regret it later but that is not your problem. Working with the inflated value of this Venus transit makes this an excellent time to unload stocks, real estate and unwanted items. Then, use the money gained to pay off debts.

Venus retrograde is an excellent time for buying antiques, flea market items and secondhand goods wherein you know the real worth and value of the item but the seller does not.

Years ago when I first studied astrology, I warned my parents about spending excessively on an antiquing trip when Venus was retrograde. To my surprise, they came back with the best bargains! They discovered many valuable antiques with very low prices because the seller did not know their value. Purchasing real estate is not always a problem with Venus retrograde. If you know that the property is a bargain, you can make an excellent deal. Discrimination is essential. Do not be motivated by a flashy appearance.

According to Delphine Jay, who has lectured extensively on retrogrades, she finds that Venus retrograde is a favorable time for re-negotiating a financial situation such as a contract or bank loan. It can be helpful in resolving a long-standing legal matter. When Venus is station (around the retrograde/direct dates), it is a good time to change lawyers.

Mary Shea states that this is a time to reflect on the inner value of your experiences rather than outer display. Material rewards may be delayed and material or possessions that you expect to acquire may not manifest. A luxury item purchased may not please you in the long run. Relationships started now will be associated with inhibitions – clandestine or possibly more spiritual. Something may be withheld and, if so, someone will be disappointed. Existing relationships may be up for review. Outer assurances and displays of love and affection are not readily evident. Old friends and lost loves may be contacted for a second look.

While the favorable transits from Venus retrograde offer an opportunity to benefit from this transit, the afflictions cause us the most difficulty, especially in relationships. The planets involved describe some of these problems. This is a general description of Venus afflicting a natal planet:

Sun: A time of general poor cooperation and hurt feelings. You feel that you do not get the recognition that you deserve. Pride issues can present problems.

Moon: A time of overly sensitive moods and hurt feelings. It someone gets upset with you, back off and allow the mood to pass. The person is over-reacting and irrational. There is nothing that you can really do. Attempts to appease will only make matters worse.

Mercury: A time of sensitivity through disagreement and not seeing eye-to-eye. Hurt feelings with something said. Watch communications on this date.

Venus: A general time of poor cooperation, feeling unloved and unappreciated. The sign that Venus is now transiting will block the sign needs shown by the natal Venus sign position.

Mars: Anger and jealousy can cause relating problems. Someone met at this time will have an unsettling affect upon your life. Hormones rule over reason. Love-hate situation in relating.

Jupiter: This aspect will cause phoniness and role playing in a relationship. If the person seems too nice or if the opportunity seems too good to be true, know that it is an unrealistic situation.

Saturn: Responsibilities and the demands of others will make you feel unloved and unappreciated. Learn to say NO!

Uranus: Unpredictability and erratic behavior in a relationship or an attraction to an unpredictable person is indicated. A very unstable time in both relationships and finances. Emotional upsets, financial problems, rebellious spending.

Neptune: A time of deception and misreading signals. You may be dealing with an ambivalent person. Your own passivity can get you into trouble now. Disappointment in relating.

Pluto: Relating can be intense, controlling and manipulative. Overwhelming behavior can be a signal of attention needs. Back away from any relationship that seems karmic!

Transpluto: Criticism by a perfectionist person will cause a separation and alienation.

Ascendant: Your sense of self-worth, self-esteem and sense of lovability are not good now. You can start to feel sorry for yourself and feel disappointed in others who may not meet your needs…at least, in the manner that you anticipate.

ADDENDUM March 2009: In my initial observation for Venus R in Aries, typical for a Cardinal sign, it is generating a lot of CRISES. I have cat (health) crises, computer crises (I always have this problem when Venus is R) and relationship crises. I am sure a financial crisis is around the corner since it is transiting my 8th House and tax time is looming on the horizon.

2010 Venus Retrograde: I scheduled my annual trip for Europe while Venus was Retrograde. With each friend I visited, there was some tragedy, loss or illness in the family. I had the computer problems from hell, preventing me from accessing my server. Because I selected a very good day astrologically, all went well or worked out to my benefit but I was affected by the sadness around me. As soon as Venus turned Direct, this completely changed. I saw a rainbow in the 2pm sky (highly unusual) so I felt that this meant that all would work out very well – and, indeed, it did.

  1. Lynn Koiner Says:
    STARTING A NEW JOB with VENUS R:

    In a job started when Venus is retrograde, be nice to everyone since you do not know who will change…and actually be friendlier later on. People often do not project themselves as they are when Venus is R. Sometimes they are in a bad place so being nice and friendly scores a lot of points….Lynn

  2. Lynn Koiner Says:
    BREEDING SHEEP & VENUS R: My father used to raise 6 sheep to keep the grass down around the pond. Even that, I have no experience with this matter. The last time Venus was Retrograde in March was in 2001. How did it go at this time for breeding?
    This should give you some type of answer….Lynn

  3. Lynn Koiner Says:
    WEDDING DATE:

    I find that the wedding chart does not really affect your future marriage. I know too many astrologers who have picked perfect dates for a marriage and the relationship did not last 2 years — so, do not worry about this.

    Do not calculate a chart for the marriage date and time. If there are any problems in the chart itself, seeing the chart will energize it. I know this from experience.

    The Moon does oppose Venus R. This could mean that someone could behave inappropriately at the event or there could be some hurt feelings. Be diplomatic.

  4. Lynn Koiner Says:
    ONLINE DATING: People who you meet online are not as they seem anyway and, with Venus R, you need to take time and wait until it goes direct before making any decision about this person.
    Do not wait. Size him up as soon as possible.

  5. Hopeful Says:
    CONCEPTION w/ VENUS R: Babies are always conceived when planets are R without difficulty for most. You may look into the Jonas Fertility Cycles. This is a time when the Moon is at the same distance from the Sun as it was a birth. This was a technique used by a Czech astrologer in the 1950s. Sometimes it really works but not always.
  6. Lynn Koiner Says:

    I do not find Solar return charts helpful to me so I do not use them. Canadian astrologer, Pricilla Costello, uses them with her own interpretation style, which is very good.
    INTERPRETATION OF VENUS R IN SOLAR RETURN CHARTS:

            Of the eight placements Venus has in the solar return chart, one is usually consistently retrograde, though irregularities occur. Venus retrograde indicates a time of comparison and contrast. Your increased ability to distinguish and value inner qualities separate from external situations signals an opportunity to compare and contrast the importance of each. Relationships, finances, and priorities should all be reassessed on the basis of the inner qualities they exhibit in comparison to the external pleasure or stress that they generate. Your focus on internal values will tend to overshadow your need for external manifestation; consequently, you will make adjustments in your pursuit of materialistic and external goals.

            Relationships are always more important for the love you give and receive than the external trappings; however, this issue will become more evident during this year. You may be in love with a special person who treats you wonderfully, but refuses to consider marriage. If you were attracted to this person because of his or her inner qualities, it is important to appreciate your feelings for one another, and not get hung up on the legalization process. During this year you will tend to assess relationships you see or experience for the inner and outer qualities which they possess or lax. You can always find others who have the external trappings you desire without genuine caring. (Example: a verbally abusive marriage.)

            External, artificial indicators of affection are meaningless. It is the inner and sometimes less apparent qualities that are important. Your attention to this issue will make the incongruity more obvious to you. Part of this discernment process can involve frustration with personal involvements which do not conform to your external expectations of what a relationship or partner should be. Love does not necessarily occur in neat little storybook packages, and frustration results from close attention to external storybook details which cannot truly satisfy internal needs. Outer limitations stress the importance of inner beauty. Because third parties may not easily see the qualities that you appreciate in your loved one, they may criticize your choice. Their criticism will encourage you to further define the inner beauty that attracts you. Those relationships which possess no redeeming inner qualities will seem void and unfulfilling. They can be discarded regardless of the external advantages they supply.

            Values must be more closely attuned to the individual’s aesthetic appreciation and therefore may be less consistent with societal preferences and standards. One can see unique beauty in what might appear ordinary to others. Your taste in material objects might depend on the emotional qualities associated with those objects. Price or status is unimportant.

            Venus retrograde symbolizes an emphasis on the quality of life over the desire for financial gain. The money you earn should not be as important as the quality of your working environment and your satisfaction while on the job. Focusing on your inner need for contentment and fulfillment allows you to let go of a large salary, and search for an enjoyable employment position even though it may involve a pay cut. If you continue to work at a stressful job because of the pay, you may be very unhappy. Materialism will not bring you true happiness this year or any year. If you must remain in a stressful job, develop a strong belief in yourself and your abilities. Set goals that are rewarding and doable. Do not focus on your inability to perform at your best when conditions are at their worst. Some work environments are dysfunctional. Financially, this is generally a time to be conservative with funds. You cannot make good decisions about the quality of your life if you are more concerned with your monetary situation.

            Social contacts and involvement in social activities are not emphasized while Venus is retrograde in the solar return. You need more time to focus inward and may withdraw from some or all social functions because you welcome the time alone. You might no longer enjoy these functions, or you might realize that certain social relationships are too difficult and unrewarding to maintain. For those individuals who require counseling, this can be a time of isolation. Withdrawal is common with Venus retrograde, but generally any time alone can be put to good use. You could want to be alone with one special person.

  7. Lynn Koiner Says:

    COSMETIC SURGERY: In the past, I have researched the transits when someone has cosmetic surgery. I was surprised that for truly cosmetic purposes there were strong Neptune transits. When it was something like gastro-bypass surgery, something extreme and life altering, it was a Pluto transit.
    One person had surgery done on a great day astrologically, even though Mercury was R. A stitch was left in the ear lobe and it took months to discover the source of the soreness in the ear lobe.
    I have no observations with Venus R. The

  8. Lynn Koiner Says:

    COSMETIC SURGERY: It sure seems like a lot of people want to have cosmetic surgery when Venus is retrograde.

    I have no experience in observing how these surgeries turn out when Venus is Retrograde.
    It is just not a time when I would personally elect to have cosmetic surgery. I have had emergency surgery with Mars and Mercury R and all went extremely well.
    I would definitely avoid electional with Mercury R as something wrong will always happen, if this is elected (not emergency)
    If I just had to select a date a surgery date when Venus is R, I would pick a date when the Moon’s aspects are all favorable before leaving the sign. The last aspect must always be good as it indicates the outcome.
    Yet, I know people who have just gone in for elective surgery when the last aspect was bad but the surgery turned out well….it just may not have lasted so long.

    I get my hair done when I need it. I used to pick good dates astrologically until I realized that I have a great hairdresser and any day I go in is always a good date. She never messes up. I think a good doctor can override bad aspects.

  9. Lynn Koiner Says:
    RELATIONSHIPS IN GENERAL & VENUS R: Venus R is a good time to see these relationships in a new light…and then let these people go in your mind.
    This requires both maturity and insight — but Venus R does offer the opportunity to see the problems in these former relationships.
    Venus R is a good time to be kind to others because many people will be feeling unloved and unappreciated at this time. It is a good time to draw out shy people and cultivate a friendship.

  10. Lynn Koiner Says:

    BUYING CAR: When Venus is R, you need to buy something that is conservative, a bargain, so to speak. Do not buy anything luxurious or you will regret it. I always pick a date when the Moon’s last aspect is favorable, including parallals, before leaving the sign.

  11. Lynn Koiner Says:
    THE VENUS TRANSIT OF 2004 and 2012: The transit of Venus is indeed a rare event. It occurs about every 125 years (guessing here).
    It occurred on June 4 2004 and again June 6 2012.
    This is Venus passing over the face of the Sun. This happens with Mercury too, a little more frequently.

    I find that new ideas break through with the Mercury transit.

    Fortuitous? Well, many of my friends found 2004 to be life altering — divorces, major illnesses, major changes that were not easy. But, indeed, life altering.

    Historically, the Venus Transit influences how we view our world — Impressionism in art, the American revolution and the concept that the common man could rule himself, discovering new worlds…it goes on. Usually, the 2nd transit marks the culmination — but I have not clue as to how this current Venus Transit has affected society.

  12. Al Says:
    TESTIMONIAL ON COSMETIC SURGERY WITH VENUS R:

    Venus RX / Cosmetic Surgery – do not do it! I did my first nose job on a Ven Rx.

    The surgeon was very minimal with it. So I had it done AGAIN with a surgeon that was more aggressive and gave me the transformtion.

    I too agree, Venus RX is not the time for elective plastic surgery. In fact I wonder if Michael Jackson had some of his surgeries resulting in not liking the results and re-doing them.

  13. De Says:

    I am so upset. I purchased a new Nissan without realizing it was the Venus Retrograde and cannot return it now. I already have to get the bumper repainted because the garage door came down on it for no reason (normally it senses something is there and stops). Is this car going to be a constant bother? Do I need to go and trade it in?

  14. Lynn Koiner Says:
    BAD ENERGIES AROUND MY CAR:

    DE (6-2012): Do not trade your car in. Venus R does not mean that the car is going to be accident prone. Venus R is good for bargains.

    You need to change your attitude about the car by putting some type of protection around it. These are some suggestions —

    + High John the Conqueror Oil from Mystic Curio now located in Port Charlotte FL

    + A strong quartz crystal (I have one in my car called a shielding crystal but these are difficult to find) – you can send a thought form into the crystal for protection.

  15. Debbie Caprara Says:

    I was just informed that my House Settlement date is January 20, 2014. Should I settle on this date or wait until Jan 31st, 2014 when Venus stations direct? However I realize the Mercury Retrograde is Feb 7 2014 therefore I have the station of Mercury if I choose Jan 31st. Any Suggestions would be greatly appreciated!

    Thank you,
    Debbie

  16. Lynn Koiner Says:

    DEBBIE (9-2013): The deal is already done so do not worry about the retrogrades. Anyway, the Moon is well aspected in its applying aspects from Virgo so this date is better.

    Sometimes I HAVE to travel when Mercury is Retrograde. When there is not choice, I just go and never look at the aspects. It always works out just fine BUT, if I perchance select a date to initiate when Mercury is R, then problems arise.

  17. Debbie Caprara Says:

    Thank you very much for your reply. I would also love to know your personal feelings on using a contractor during the Venus or Mercury Retrogrades to do things such as paint, install fireplace mantels and tile floor, etc. Would you wait even it you purchased the products before the retrogrades since I am concerned I will not like the finished product. I would love to hear your thoughts and truly appreciate your time.

    Thanks again,
    Debbie

  18. Lynn Koiner Says:

    DEBBIE (10-2013): Somehow, I always seem to get renovation work started when Mercury is R. Well, last year, they discovered that the pipes under the kitchen floor had dissolved from age so a plumber had to do this before they could start on remodeling the kitchen. But, it all went well. I just did not CHOOSE to start then – it just happened.

    I do not like starting work with Mercury R because of the delays. Venus R may not be so bad for remodeling and renovating.

  19. Nip&Tuck Says:

    Everywhere I read it says that getting elective cosmetic (plastic) surgery is a bad idea during Venus Retrograde! Is it also unfavorable to schedule it during the Pre-Retrograde Shadow?

    I’m thinking of scheduling a procedure at the end of November, but need to know if that is a bad idea since Venus’ Pre-retrograde Shadow Period begins approx Nov. 21 2013.

  20. Lynn Koiner Says:

    NIP&TUCK (10-2013): Al in an above post said that he was very disappointed with his rhinoplasty. I would never ELECT a surgery when there is a Retrograde.

    I am not a big proponent of the shadow periods, although I avoid action close to the planet’s changing direction.

    You need to pick an electional date – a day when the Moon only makes favorable aspects before it leaves the sign. I do this on my website but not so far into the future. I can let you know about the dates that you choose.

  21. Carol Says:

    I have noticed how cranky people are on Venus Retrograde. I am a Virgo 5 degrees from the Leo Cusp on the 23rd with a Moon in Cancer and Venus in Libra. I definately feel the shifts! I also do not mind relaxing and watching everything unfold. I have had many great things happen to me on Venus Retrograde. I also noticed that Jupiter Retrograde will be active during the Venus R. For a double whammy. Blessedly I was birn during a Jupiter Retrograde (I always wondered why I had such financial issues most of the year with an exception to extreme luck for a few short months).
    I would suggest to everyone to take your precautions, get things in black and white. Smile, nod and file things in the back of your mind.

  22. Maya Says:

    5 or 6 years ago I bought a brand new BMW years ago during a Venus retrograde. The car locked itself a week after I bought it at a gas station. A flat beed truck had to pick up the car. It took 4 hours for the truck to arrive. The dealership kept the car for a week. A couple of months later the car locked itself at a gas station with our luggage in it as our family was leaving town for a vacation at Disney World for the Christmas holiday. After a multi hour wait the dealership picked up the car and we rented a new one and got our luggage out of the car. It was unbelievable. The dealership had the car for a month. The engine light came on constantly. I also paid a ridiculous amount for the car. The car salesman told me I was paying a certain amount but after I calculated the lease cost I realized I paid way over sticker price. I normally read every single word of every single document, even those statements you receive from your credit card company announcing credit term changes, so I can’t believe I didn’t pay attention. A month after I had the car I got a letter from BMW requesting increased insurance coverage that almost tripled the cost because it was a lease and BMW required a huge amount of coverage. The insurance was almost $300 per MONTH, rather than $600 every 6 months, for the total cost for the increased coverage. Every single time I got in that car I was disgusted. The day I got rid of that car was one of the happiest day of my life. 2 years after I got the car my home insurance increased from $2,400 per year for all of my policies to almost $10,000 per year.

    My sister redid her floors in her house during a Venus retrograde 7 or 8 years ago and although they look very nice to me she is unhappy every time she looks at them. Her disgust with her floors almost causes her physical pain (yes, it IS that upsetting to her). She actually wanted to sell her home as soon as the floors were done but she owes more than the house is worth and is a single parent mom working full time and going to school part time. She’s trapped. She has to live with the floors that she hates.

    Definitely don’t have elective surgery during a Venus retrograde. I had breast augmentation 9 or 10 years ago. I redid the surgery and am still not happy. I asked the doctor for C cup and got double F. When I redid them the doctor said that I could not go smaller than a DD or my skin would sag and I would be disfigured. I’m never comfortable (constantly embarrassed). Nothing I wear looks good on me (to me).

  23. Mary Says:

    Hi there,

    Venus is touring over my natal Mars in 11th and for the year 2014 I also have this aspect (conjunction of retrograde venus with natal mars in 11th) in solar return. Moreover progressed venus is also coming to conjunction with natal mars which will be exact in three years. This year we wanted to get engaged and meet our parents in law could this indicate marriage? Well we were on and off in this relationship almost 10 years now. And now we want to settle down to have kids. Thanks and happy new year !!!

  24. Rhea Says:

    Does a venus retrograde in the natal chart make someone shy about their looks? I have my natal venus retrograde in Leo in 8th house that conjuncts my natal sun. I review my looks many times before stepping out everyday. And sometimes, despite getting compliments, I feel unsure of looking good.

    Also, what if the retrograde natal venus is in the 1st house? Does that make someone ugly?

  25. astarwalker Says:

    Hi and thank you for the site.
    During the 2012 Venus retrograde i lived a very intense but short love relationship with someone, where we both knew it was a soul connection from past lives. When it went direct, it sort of fizzled, although i could never really totally forget this person. Now in 2013 venus retrograde is in my solar 7th house conjuncting my natal capricorn venus by 4 degrees, and exactly sextiling my natal saturn and exactly square my natal pluto (in this man’s chart, this venus retrograde exactly conjuncts his ascendent and saturn). Any chance of us meeting again or reconnecting? ( although i would probably have to be the initiator of this) Or any new love for that matter? Also, i am planning an international relocation for late 2014. Thanks in advance.

  26. Ninah Kessler Says:

    What a comprehensive article on Venus Retrograde.

  27. Mary Says:

    Directing a film while Venus Rx

    Hi there –

    I have natal Venus Rx at 10 deg Virgo with Libra rising. I’m set to direct a film while Venus is retrograde this year.

    The film has been in the planning stages for months and the main aesthetic choices will be made before Venus goes retrograde.

    Is there anything in particular I should be wary of? Does anyone have any experience with undertaking artistic endeavors during this sort of retrograde?

    Many thanks in advance!

  28. S Frances Says:

    I have been researching info on cosmetic procedures during Venus Retro, and am more confused than when I started. I am a Gemini w/a Cancer moon and had a procedure back in March 2013 that did not achieve the desired result, so the surgeon has me scheduled on Jan 6, 2014 to fine tune the result. Does it make a difference if it is something that is already in process, as opposed to an initial procedure?

  29. Janel Says:

    Hi Lynn,

    I have another wacky question for you and of course it has to do with a move ( I’m a Cap with Uranus in my 4th house, lol). Well I will be moving a again with my lease to start on Jan 1. I already signed the lease this week and the building i’m moving into is vintage. However I wanted to buy furniture. Since Venus will be in retrograde would it be better to buy the furniture now and have it delivered in January? I’m figuring while Venus is in Rx my taste may change once the planet goes direct would it be better to buy now. I would reatly appreciate your advise.

    Thanks!!!

  30. Lynn Koiner Says:

    JANEL (12-2013): You brought up a very good point – your taste may change and this is a very good observation. Venus R is good for bargains but you may not always be happy with the purchase.
    I am in Europe so I cannot answer questions very well.
    Buy with a return policy might be helpful.

  31. Glory Says:

    Hi Lynn –

    Great article – so, I’m signing to form a living trust at the end of the year – is that ok – especially since I don’t want the trust content to come true (that would mean both my husband and I passed away…) Also, forming a company to place assets in – is it a good time to do this under Venus Rx since I have to sign papers and ‘start’ something?

    Thanks!

  32. Sara Says:

    Hi Lynn,

    A man and I were acquaintances two years ago. We knew each other but were not closed. Two months ago (around the end of October) we met up for work related stuff and we became closer since then as in both of us show signs that we like to hang out with the other person. But nothing happened. Unfortunately, we are going to see each other during the holiday (during Venus retrograde) and we might hit it off. Would our relationship destine to fail if we begin our relationship during this this time? (I am a Scorpio with Taurus rising; and he’s a Scorpio too if it helps). I am afraid we don’t see each other in the right light and since we are working with each other, a heart break would be very awkward.

    Thank you!!!!

  33. James Baker Says:

    Very useful information. During the Venus Retro in Gemini, 2004, I was let go from a stifling job, changed my life. Last June, 2013, with Venus retro in Gemini again, I was ostracized by a group of friends over comments taken way out of context. They have barely said anything to me in 6 months. Both times Venus was retro in Gemini in my 1st house. Both times my public reputation was slandered, tainted, and/or destroyed. Next week, Venus will go retro in my 8th house, where my natal Saturn is, although they will not conjunct. Most of my relationships, business, personal, social, in the past year have been destroyed. Divorced from a cheating spouse in October this year, I am literally “on the fringe” of any relationship I have. I feel my real challenge regarding intimacy is learning how to accept and value myself, then turn it into something creative (paint, draw, write). After Venus goes direct, Saturn will be conjunct my natal Jupiter in my 6th house for almost the next year. I am hoping for a repast from this isolation. With Mars in my 5th house, the only thing that keeps me going is care for my two children. Could use some advice.

  34. Lynn Koiner Says:

    GLORY (12-2013): This is not a question that can be answered by only considering Venus R. You need to pick a good day astrologically (electional) and you need to find good aspects involving your financial Houses. This requires a more detailed look at your chart.

    However, you can just pick a good electional date. I have these for December and soon I will post January dates.

    SARA: Like Gloria, one needs to look at your chart and his chart to see the compatibility. This would be much more effective that just thinking about what will happen simply because Venus is Retrograde.
    You might get some better insights into the relationship. If a man was really attracted to you, he would have made some moves already. Venus R might allow you to see whether the relationship is really viable…but only a comparison of the charts could tell this.

    JAMES: You have given some very good insights into Venus R. But, you should know that I cannot give any really good advice not knowing your chart.

  35. Mozes Says:

    RE: “If a man was really attracted to you …“I am a Scorpio rising (Aquarius) with Mars Retrograde – I have never been able to ‘make moves’ in a situation where I was really attracted to a woman – and on the rare occasion that I did, it was awkward and failed to impress – got the opposite response. My important relationships (marriage, LTR) have always had an intermediary ‘matchmaker’ to catalyze the connection.

  36. Lynn Koiner Says:

    MOZES (12-2013): Good point, Mozes, as some men do need to wait for signals and reassurance.

    But, in the above case, they have made connections and the man failed to really make a move – usually indicating that there is someone else in his life or he is not interested.
    I just cannot tell with the scanty information that people give me.

  37. Rabbit Says:

    Hi Lynn, I’m a Capricorn who’s been in a long term relationship with a man (Scorpio) for nearly 4 years and have been reevaluating our relationship as of late. I’ve been considering breaking up but am hesitant as we’ve had so many good times and currently live together. I have noticed since mid-November that the irritations of our relationship have been more pronounced to me and our squabbling increased. To make matters complicated, I am falling for another man as well.

    I feel paralyzed by the decisions I have to make regarding this, especially now realizing Venus will be retrograde until February. Should I avoid making any hard decisions until February, even if I feel like I’m possibly “plodding along” in my current relationship and feel excited about the possibility of a new start with this new man?

  38. Lynn Koiner Says:

    RABBIT (12-2013): I agree that you should not make any hard decisions until after you make evaluations while Venus is R. New relationships are always exciting – I feel that thinking about it is better than doing it.

    You should have a chart comparison done on these men to be sure.

  39. Ann Says:

    Dear Lynn, I am pregnant and wish to hire a nanny after the baby is born for a month, the cost is double my monthly salary, however this nanny worked with two of my colleagues and both were satisfied with her. Would Venus R influence this kind of contract/hiring? I am not sure if it should be seen as a luxurious spending, even though it is quite a lot of money to be spent. Thank you so much!

  40. Lynn Koiner Says:

    ANN (12-2013): You asked a good question that I have never considered before – yes, twice your monthly salary is a lot of money to spend when Venus is R. I would be concerned.

    There are 2 things you can do to answer your question – if you have tarot cards, pull 3 cards for the question. I always do this when I travel in Europe, asking how the day will go for me.

    Next, there is horary astrology – a chart done for the day and time that you ask a question. I know several good horary astrologers if you need this service.

  41. J. Lucas Says:

    Excellent article on Venus Rx…This is a keeper for review during this transit in my 12th house which will conjunct my Asc. and Sextile My Venus at the same time at 22degrees and semi sextile my Moon/Jupiter conj. and In conjunct my Uranus all at 22* (Jupiter 25*Sag.).

  42. Pam29 Says:

    Very informative article. I scheduled a scar revision procedure for Thursday, February 13, 2014. I have been waiting to get this cosmetic surgery procedure for the last seven years. Should I get the scar revision procedure done in February 2014?

  43. Desiree Says:

    Hi Lynn!

    I thoroughly enjoyed this article. My sun and rising is in Leo and my Venus is in Gemini. I met someone online (he’s a Taurus, Taurus Rising, Venus in Gemini) December 15th and we will meet in person during the Venus Retrograde 12/29. With most astrologers saying you should not start a relationship during Venus Retrograde, should I even meet him?

  44. BlueGirl Says:

    Hi Lynn

    I was born with a venus in retrograde, I have heard that instead of being detrimental it actually enhances beauty and brings in finances, I would love to get your opinion on the subject.
    Thanks

  45. Ivy Says:

    Hi Lynn,

    I am so happy to have found your website. I am currently a novice trying to learn more about timing in tarot and astrology.
    At the moment l am not in a relationship, the guy and l broke off a while ago and l asked the cards to tell me when he would contact me, the cards gave me Judgement and the clarifying card was the Empress. I took it to mean that a time is coming where he will have inner/self conflictions (doubts?) where he will be questioning his desires and wants in his life. I am really struggling and earner to understand tarot yet this is how I can interpret the two cards.
    The guy is still single and doesn’t want to change his lifestyle but would very much like to be with a partner when he feels it’s right. There are some factors that are keeping us apart mainly from his side and the relationship we had could have happened…we still have strong feelings for each other.

    Uhm, it was pretty challenging to find the timing of these two tarot cards, with judgement card governing the fire elements, I took it to mean Aries,Leo or saggitarius signs. Empress = Venus/Friday.

    Is it correct to say that he will initiate contact when Venus is in Aries? Are the moment, Venus is in retrograde. Two people from my past have contacted me and would like to come back into my life :-D. Your explanations are awesome and l am flawed by some of the examples you have given because there are those l am able to relate to my life and to family members as well…astrology sounds so much fun!!
    Can l ask for your assistance to help me out with these two cards (judgement and Empress together)?

    Thank you in advance.

  46. Lynn Koiner Says:

    PAM29 (12-2013): Maya in #22 did not have a good experience with cosmetic surgery with Venus R. But, when I look at February 13 — Mercury is R, not Venus, and there is a Full Moon. No, I would not recommend this date.

    DESIREE: Read this article again and you will see that meeting someone with Venus R will mean that you see each other in a very different way. 1) You could be disillusioned when he is not as he appeared online…2) You may change your mind when Venus goes direct. Definitely do not get involved at this time.

    BLUEGIRL: Venus R natally has nothing to do with attractiveness but how you FEEL about your looks and whether or not you feel loveable.

    IVY: This is an astrological website not a tarot website. Yes, I use tarot when I travel or need a quick answer but I never mix the 2 techniques. So, I cannot give you any assistance on your tarot cards. You need to go to a Tarot site.

  47. irinass Says:

    I want to know if this can happen during lovemaking plan I mean that on December 2 I broke up with someone, you can return or re-evaluate the situation? Born on 20septembrie1973 he 9februarie1977.

  48. Sheila Says:

    Hi Lynn –

    I’m trying to make a decision on a move to a bigger apartment. I am a Sagittarius with Scorpio cusp and Aquarius rising. Nov 24, 1978.

    I like my current apartment but I have been frustrated that it is too small for what I need. On Nov 20 or so I got reall anxious about the situation.. Been frustrated with apt, boyfriend and job to varying extents but apartment has been the easiest thing to tackle. I am supposed to sign a lease tomorrow and I have been very worried that this might not be the right move right now. The current deal symbolizes new life to me with a new routine and more space, but I could also stay where I am and renovate and reorganize. Another thing influencing the situation is that my long distance bf is planning to come and live with me. The new place is $600 a month more, with twice the space. It is not terrible for my budget but it will be a stretch, until or if he comes up to live thre. If I stay I can still break lease later, but right now I can have a pretty good deal for what I think I want with no disruption save the actual move. I can’t tell what to do. I want to be brave about a move to something better but maybe it is not as great as I think?

    Really stuck, would appreciate insights.

  49. Lynn Koiner Says:

    IRINASS (12-2013): This was not a viable relationship. Let him go.
    But, yes, it is a time to re-evaluate your relationship with this man.
    Your Moon in Cancer and Venus in Scorpio may have been too much for an Aquarian!

  50. cleo Says:

    Hi Lynn,

    I’m reconnecting with an old love, my first love, during this Venus Rx in Capricorn. Venus is Retrograding in my 11th house, while it’s Retrograding in his 7th. We are very compatible in comparing our charts (synastry, composite, progressed) I was also too chicken to be with him because I feared losing the love of my life. Long story short, 15 years later, we’re grown-ups now and we still have a very powerful bond. If we restarted our old connection during the Venus Rx, would it go flat once Venus went Direct? OR should any plans or decisions wait until Venus is Direct.

    Thanks

  51. Lynn Koiner Says:

    CLEO (12-2013): The relationship is going to be what it is going to be – the stars cannot change destiny. If it is a good relationship, then it will work out regardless of the Retrogrades BUT Venus R is a good time to reconnect in this case, where you know each other.

  52. Nen Says:

    Hi,
    Kindly note that am a Taurus born guy ( May 19th). From Dec 21st after Venus turned Retro, am continuously having either health issues ( from Dec 21 to Dec 26th ) followed by mentally stressed issue and relationship issues with my wife.

    Pls let me for any remedies which can be done to reduce the effect of Venus Retro.
    Best Regards,
    Nen

  53. Lynn Koiner Says:

    NEN (1-2014): I know of no remedies for Venus R. Venus R in itself did not cause the heal issues. If you post on my Medical Forum on this website (upper right of homepage), I can try to help. I do not even know what you help issue is so how can anyone say what to do.

  54. Karen Says:

    This period is not the time to have your hair cut or colored and made a mistake last time venus was in retrograde.I was not happy with my cut and it took awhile to grow out.The color was too dark.

  55. Lizard30 Says:

    Hi,

    My partner (Leo) and I (Libra) broke up in August 2013 after 12 months together. After still seeing one another on and off right up until late November 2013, I decided enough was enough as they didn’t want to commit fully again…so I cut ties completely.
    On January 4 2014 we have reconnected on a whole new level and seem to have begun a new chapter. We seem to have always had a very strong connection that’s been difficult to break. I was wondering if this retrograde tends to have a positive effect on reconnected relationships that have a strong bond.

    Thank you

  56. TaurusCancerLeo Says:

    Lynn,

    I knew someone professionally for awhile. He asked me out a couple of days before Venus Rx. He seems very interested. We met for coffee so far. Would it be better to dodge dates until after Venus Rx? I’m perplexed since we knew each other before Venus Rx & he initially asked me to coffee right before Venus Rx. Thanks!

  57. debbiecaprara@comcast.net Says:

    Hi Lynn,

    In your opinion, would you consider a sofa a luxury item since it is rather costly but I first saw it when Venus was Direct but didn’t know if I would hate it when it came in which would be around the end of March or sometime in April. Any help would be appreciated.

    Thank you,
    Debbie

  58. Lynn Koiner Says:

    DEBBIE (1-2014): If it is a bargain, buy it. When in question, pull 3 tarot cards for the answer…should I buy it.
    But, make sure it will fit through the door and that it goes with your living room furnishing.

  59. Andrea E. Says:

    Hi

    Im scheduled to have a surgery (breast reduction) on January 30, 2014 and Im very concerned it is on venus retrograde. I tried to move the date but it was impossible my birthday is august 16 1981 could you please tell me how bad can itbe having the surgery that day or if there is something I can do in order to protect my self during this time? Is it worst having the surgery while venus is in retrograde or while mercury is in retrograde?The surgery is at 10 am. Thanks for the advice.

  60. Lauren Says:

    Hello, Lynn.
    I was wondering if you could answer a question.
    You said problems that arise at the beginning of a relationship manifest again later on… I believe this is happening.
    My boyfriend of almost three years and father of my child and I just do not seem on the same page.
    Infidelity from the past constantly lurks in my head and I have yet to truly trust him.
    Should I forgive and move foreword or halt because of unsteady ground?
    I am terrified because my heart is his but I fear his love is fleeting and his sex organ speaks louder than his mouth…
    I am by far one of the most insecure people ever and it is hard for me to trust and believe what he says is true.

  61. Sheila Says:

    Hi Lynn -

    Didn’t get your feedback on my apartment and so went through with the move. Very painful, very dramatic emotions. Did it anyway though.

    Dealing with another more pressing issue. Have been with my boyfriend for two years, sensing an ending lurking and not sure how to deal with it. He is a cancer, cap rising, my info above, see 12/22. Moved because current plan is for him to move in with me after living in different cities for the last 2 years. I’m somewhat commitment-phobic, and I’m also very aggressive about seeking and facing the truth of a matter, so the feeling that we might not make it really troubles me about the move.

    There are some complicated factors. We bond very well ideologically and physically and even emotionally but we have differences in what we want out of the relationship. He preaches living in the now, but I worry about my future. I am 35 and getting nervous. I’m not rushing to have kids but his complete lack of interest is one of a few big factors that makes me want to run. But every time I’m about to, I fall apart, he is really very dear to me. I’m also somewhat hard to handle and he has been amazing at it. We’ve been holding tight through the retrograde but it has been really hard. Every week a new and totally real feeling breakup conversation. Always instigated by me. Can’t tell if I should let go or hold on.

    Any insight would really be great. I’m 11/24/78 and he is 7/9/78

    FROM LYNN: Sheila, I have not being receiving post notifications since February 1. This relationship does not sound good. Problems at the beginning of a relationship will only get worse after marriage -- a man told me this. Do use the Mercury R time to re-evaluate the relationship.
 

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